Ken Honda’s 17 Things to Do in Your Teenage Years

Ken Honda:  

"Hello, everyone! I’m Ken Honda, and I’m so excited to share with you 17 life-changing conversations designed to help you navigate your teenage years with wisdom, confidence, and joy.

As teenagers, you’re standing at the crossroads of self-discovery, independence, and big decisions about your future. These years are a time of incredible possibility—but also challenges, uncertainty, and questions about who you are and where you're going.

That’s why I’ve invited some of the world’s greatest thinkers, leaders, and storytellers to guide you through these 17 key lessons—each one designed to help you unlock your full potential.

In these conversations, you’ll learn:

• How to think for yourself and embrace your unique journey.
• Why questioning common beliefs leads to real wisdom.
• The secrets of success, happiness, and financial freedom.
• How to make the most of your time and live with purpose.

From understanding the power of your thoughts to learning about money, relationships, and destiny, these lessons will give you the tools to create the life you truly want.

So, whether you’re just starting to think about your future or already chasing your dreams, this series is for you. Get ready to be inspired, challenged, and empowered—because your journey to a meaningful, successful life starts now!

Let’s begin!"

(Note: This is an imaginary conversation, a creative exploration of an idea, and not a real speech or event.)

Understanding That Life Has No Single Correct Answer

Moderator: Ken Honda
Speakers: Joseph Campbell, Carol Dweck, Mark Manson

Ken Honda:

Welcome, everyone! Today, we’re discussing a fundamental truth: Life has no single correct answer.

Many teenagers feel pressure to follow a fixed path—get good grades, go to a top university, get a stable job—but is that really the only way to live a good life? Or are there multiple ways to define success?

Joseph, let’s start with you. You’ve studied mythology and human journeys—what do different cultures tell us about the idea of a “right” way to live?

Joseph Campbell:

Great question, Ken. In every culture, myths and legends tell countless different stories of success and purpose.

The mistake people make is assuming there is one single road everyone must take. But the truth is:

There are as many ways to live as there are people.

Look at history: Some people became legends through adventure and exploration—think of Marco Polo or Neil Armstrong. Others through intellectual discoveries, like Albert Einstein. Some devoted their lives to helping others, like Mother Teresa. And many found happiness in simple, quiet lives filled with love and community.

Each of these paths is equally valuable. The question is: Which world do you want to live in?

Ken Honda:

That’s a fascinating way to put it—life is like a parallel world with different options, and you get to choose which world you live in.

Carol, your work on growth mindset suggests that people aren’t limited to just one path. How do you see this concept playing out in real life?

Carol Dweck:

Exactly, Ken. Many people assume that once they choose a path, they’re stuck forever. But the truth is:

Life is a series of choices.

Imagine a video game where you can take different paths at every level. One choice leads to new experiences, which lead to more choices. Some people change careers multiple times. Some people start late but still become wildly successful—like Colonel Sanders, who founded KFC in his 60s!

The key is to focus on growth rather than perfection. If one road doesn’t work out, take another. The right path is the one that keeps you learning and moving forward.

Ken Honda:

That’s a great analogy! Instead of feeling pressure to pick the one perfect path, teenagers can think of life as a series of doors—each choice opens new possibilities.

Mark, you talk about how people often overthink life choices. What’s your advice for someone struggling to decide their path?

Mark Manson:

First off, I love the idea of life as a parallel world. It’s true—different choices lead to different experiences.

One of the biggest mistakes people make is waiting for the perfect answer before making a decision. But here’s the reality:

The “right” way to live differs from person to person.

There’s no universal formula for happiness. Some people love the excitement of entrepreneurship, while others thrive in stable careers. Some people love traveling the world, while others find deep satisfaction in staying close to home.

So, instead of asking, “What’s the right way?” ask yourself:

• What excites me?
• What kind of problems do I enjoy solving?
• What kind of world do I want to live in?

That’s the only way to create a life that feels meaningful to you.

Ken Honda:

That’s powerful! Instead of trying to fit into someone else’s expectations, we should ask ourselves: What kind of life do I want to create?

Joseph, in your studies of mythology, do you see a pattern in how people find their own path?

Joseph Campbell:

Yes! Every myth follows a similar pattern: The Hero’s Journey.

The hero starts in an ordinary world but feels a calling to something more. They leave their comfort zone, face challenges, and ultimately find their unique purpose.

Teenagers today are on their own hero’s journey. Society may push them toward one path, but at some point, they must choose for themselves.

My advice? Follow your curiosity. If you feel pulled toward something—music, technology, travel—explore it. That’s your adventure calling.

Ken Honda:

That brings us full circle!

Let’s summarize our key takeaways:

1. There are as many ways to live as there are people. Success looks different for everyone. (Campbell)
2. Life is like a parallel world—where do you want to live? You can create your own reality. (Honda)
3. The “right” way to live differs from person to person. There is no universal formula. (Manson)
4. Life is a series of choices. It’s okay to change paths as you grow. (Dweck)
5. What kind of life do you want to create? Your decisions shape your future. (All speakers)

To all teenagers listening: Your life is your own adventure. Choose a path that excites you, and don’t be afraid to change course when needed.

Thank you, everyone, for this wonderful conversation!

Observing How Society Works

Moderator: Ken Honda
Speakers: Noam Chomsky, Yuval Noah Harari, Malcolm Gladwell

Ken Honda:

Welcome, everyone! Today, we’re talking about a powerful realization: Society operates through systems. Understanding these systems helps us navigate life better.

Many young people assume the world just “works” as it is, without questioning why. But when you learn to see the structures beneath the surface, you gain more control over your future.

Let’s start with Yuval Noah Harari. How does the world operate based on systems?

Yuval Noah Harari:

Great question, Ken. If we step back and look at history, we see that humans don’t live in random chaos—we organize ourselves through systems.

These systems shape everything we do:

• The economy: Who has money and power? How are jobs created?
• Governments: Who makes decisions? Who enforces laws?
• Education: Who decides what we learn? Why do schools function the way they do?

These structures aren’t natural laws—humans created them. That means they can change. But to change anything, you have to first understand how it works.

Ken Honda:

That’s fascinating! Many people grow up inside these systems without realizing they were designed by people.

Noam, in your research, how do families fit into these systems?

Noam Chomsky:

Your family’s position in society affects everything—from your opportunities to your mindset.

Think about it:

• Are your parents entrepreneurs? If so, you might grow up believing taking risks is normal.
• Are they government workers? Then you might see stability as the key to life.
• Do they struggle financially? Then you might learn scarcity thinking.

Many people assume success is just about personal effort, but where you start in the system matters a lot. That’s why some people have a head start—they grow up with financial stability, better education, and powerful connections.

However, where you start doesn’t determine where you finish. Once you understand the system, you can find ways to move within it.

Ken Honda:

That’s an important point. Many teenagers feel trapped by their family’s situation, but if they learn how systems work, they can find ways to improve their future.

Malcolm, let’s talk about schools. Many teens feel like school is the only world that matters. But in reality, school is just a tiny piece of the bigger picture. What do you think?

Malcolm Gladwell:

Absolutely! School is a unique world of its own.

It has:

• Artificial rules (Grades, tests, and rankings determine who is “smart”).
• A social hierarchy (Who’s popular, who’s not, who gets attention from teachers).
• A reward system (You’re told good grades = success, but that’s not always true).

But here’s the truth:

The real world doesn’t work like school.

• In life, there’s no final exam—just constant learning.
• Success isn’t about memorization—it’s about creativity, relationships, and adaptability.
• The people who win aren’t always the ones who followed the rules—they’re the ones who learned how to navigate the system.

So while school teaches useful things, it’s just one small part of life’s bigger picture.

Ken Honda:

That’s a great insight! School is important, but it doesn’t define your entire future.

Now, let’s shift to a key life principle: What you give is what you receive.

Yuval, how does this concept play out in history and society?

Yuval Noah Harari:

Throughout history, societies that valued cooperation and generosity thrived.

For example:

• Ancient trade networks only worked because people trusted each other.
• Nations that shared knowledge advanced faster than those that hoarded power.
• Even today, companies that focus on serving others succeed more than those that only chase profit.

The same applies to individuals. The more you contribute—whether through skills, kindness, or innovation—the more opportunities come back to you.

It’s simple:

If you help others, you create value. If you create value, the world rewards you.

Ken Honda:

That aligns with what I teach about money and happiness. Money flows to those who create value for others.

Noam, you’ve studied social movements and power structures. How does gratitude play into success?

Noam Chomsky:

People underestimate the power of gratitude.

Here’s what happens when you practice gratitude:

1. It rewires your brain to focus on opportunities instead of obstacles.
2. It makes you more likable, which improves your relationships and career.
3. It reduces stress, making you healthier and more productive.

And most importantly—it shifts your perspective. Instead of feeling like the system is working against you, you start seeing ways to work within it.

Ken Honda:

That’s a great point! Gratitude isn’t just about feeling good—it’s a strategy for success.

Malcolm, do you have any real-world examples of how people who practice gratitude and generosity end up ahead?

Malcolm Gladwell:

Yes! Some of the most successful people got there by giving first.

• Oprah Winfrey started her career by helping others tell their stories.
• Warren Buffett teaches that long-term success comes from serving customers, not chasing quick profits.
• Maya Angelou said, "When you learn, teach. When you get, give."

Gratitude creates a cycle of success—you give, you receive, and the world opens up for you.

Ken Honda:

That brings us to our final takeaway:

Key Lessons from Today’s Discussion:

1. The world operates based on systems. Everything from the economy to education is structured. (Harari)
2. Where do your family and relatives fit within these systems? Your background influences your starting point, but you can still change your future. (Chomsky)
3. School is a unique world of its own. It doesn’t define your entire future—real success comes from learning how to adapt. (Gladwell)
4. What you give is what you receive. The more value you create, the more opportunities come back to you. (Harari)
5. Master the law of gratitude. Gratitude shifts your mindset and helps you find success even within life’s challenges. (Chomsky & Gladwell)

To all the teenagers listening: Understand the system, learn how to move within it, and approach life with generosity and gratitude. These principles will help you build a successful and fulfilling future.

Thank you, everyone, for this insightful conversation!

Questioning Common Sense and Parental Advice

Moderator: Ken Honda
Speakers: Seth Godin, Tim Ferriss, Alain de Botton

Ken Honda:

Welcome, everyone! Today, we’re tackling a topic that many young people struggle with—questioning common sense and parental advice.

As teenagers, we grow up hearing certain beliefs from parents, teachers, and society. But how often do we stop and question them?

Let’s start with this idea: Most people don’t think deeply about life.

Seth, you’ve written a lot about how people follow pre-programmed beliefs without questioning them. Why do you think that happens?

Seth Godin:

It’s simple—society rewards obedience, not independent thinking.

From a young age, we’re taught to follow instructions:

• Do your homework.
• Get good grades.
• Get a stable job.

But few people ask: Why? Who decided this is the “right” way?

Most people don’t think deeply about life because it’s easier to follow the crowd. Thinking critically is uncomfortable—it forces you to challenge long-held beliefs and take responsibility for your own choices.

But here’s the truth:

The people who succeed in extraordinary ways are the ones who question the status quo.

Steve Jobs, Elon Musk, Oprah Winfrey—these people didn’t just accept what they were told. They thought deeply, challenged assumptions, and created their own path.

Ken Honda:

That’s a great insight! Many people coast through life on autopilot, never stopping to question why things are the way they are.

Tim, you’ve studied successful people and unconventional paths. You’ve also said that 90% of adults live in uncertainty. What do you mean by that?

Tim Ferriss:

Well, here’s something most teenagers don’t realize:

Most adults are just guessing.

They might seem confident on the outside, but inside, they’re making it up as they go.

Think about it:

• How many adults say, "I wish I had done things differently"?
• How many people hate their jobs but feel stuck?
• How many blindly follow advice because they don’t know any better?

That’s why I always tell young people: Don’t assume that adults have it all figured out.

Sure, they have more life experience, but that doesn’t mean they’re right about everything. Learn from them, but also do your own thinking.

Ken Honda:

That’s an eye-opener! Many young people assume adults have all the answers, but in reality, most adults are just doing their best with the knowledge they have.

Alain, you’ve studied philosophy and psychology. Why is it so important to collect examples of what happens when people don’t think critically?

Alain de Botton:

Because history is full of people who followed bad advice without questioning it.

Let’s look at some real-world examples:

• Financial crises happen because people assume, “The economy is fine. Nothing bad will happen.”
• Wars start because entire nations accept, “Our leaders know what’s best.”
• People stay in bad jobs or relationships because they believe, “This is just how life is.”

But the truth is:

Blindly following common sense can lead to disaster.

When you don’t think critically, you give up control over your own life. The people who succeed are the ones who ask hard questions and seek their own answers.

Ken Honda:

That’s a powerful point. If we don’t question things, we risk repeating mistakes.

Let’s move to a belief that many parents tell their children: "Hard work always leads to success."

Seth, is this true?

Seth Godin:

Absolutely not.

Hard work is important, but it’s not enough.

If hard work alone led to success:

• Every factory worker would be rich.
• Every person working multiple jobs would be financially free.

But that’s not how the world works. The people who succeed don’t just work hard—they work smart.

Instead of just working harder, ask yourself:

1. Am I working on the right things?
2. Is this effort leading me where I want to go?
3. Am I leveraging my time, skills, and networks effectively?

That’s what separates successful people from those who stay stuck.

Ken Honda:

That’s a wake-up call! Many people assume effort alone guarantees success, but the reality is strategy and adaptability matter just as much.

Tim, what’s your take on this?

Tim Ferriss:

I completely agree. I always say:

If hard work were all that mattered, construction workers and waiters would be millionaires.

But in reality, the highest earners:

• Automate tasks to save time.
• Invest in skills that give high returns.
• Use networks and relationships to open doors.

If you only rely on brute effort, you’ll burn out. Instead, ask yourself how to get the most results with the least effort.

Ken Honda:

That’s really important! Work smart, not just hard.

Alain, in philosophy, we often talk about wisdom vs. effort. What’s your perspective on this?

Alain de Botton:

Many people assume that working harder means they’re being productive.

But wisdom is knowing where to apply effort.

Look at successful entrepreneurs:

• They outsource tasks they’re not good at.
• They find leverage—using one action to create massive results.
• They focus on long-term impact instead of just today’s to-do list.

So yes, hard work matters, but thoughtful strategy matters more.

Ken Honda:

That brings us to our final takeaway.

Key Lessons from Today’s Discussion:

1. Most people don’t think deeply about life. Society rewards obedience, not independent thought. (Godin)
2. 90% of adults live in uncertainty. Just because someone is older doesn’t mean they have the right answers. (Ferriss)
3. Collect examples of what happens when people don’t think critically. History is full of disasters caused by blind trust. (de Botton)
4. The idea that “hard work always leads to success” isn’t true. Hard work matters, but strategy, efficiency, and adaptability matter more. (Godin, Ferriss, de Botton)

To all teenagers listening: Question everything. Even advice from your parents, teachers, and society. Not to rebel—but to make sure you’re making the best decisions for your own life.

Thank you, everyone, for this incredible discussion!

Meeting Happy and Inspiring Adults

Moderator: Ken Honda
Speakers: Dalai Lama, Warren Buffett, Adam Grant

Ken Honda:

Welcome, everyone! Today’s topic is Meeting Happy and Inspiring Adults.

Many young people don’t realize this yet, but the people you surround yourself with will shape your future. The adults you meet—whether happy or unhappy—can either inspire you or limit you.

Let’s start with Dalai Lama. How do the people we meet influence our future?

Dalai Lama:

Thank you, Ken. Yes, the people you meet will shape your future in ways you may not even notice at first.

Imagine two young people:

• One surrounds themselves with kind, ambitious, and optimistic people. They naturally absorb those qualities.
• The other spends time with angry, negative, and fearful people. Over time, their mind becomes filled with doubts and frustration.

Humans mirror the emotions and behaviors of those around them. So if you want to be happy, successful, and fulfilled, you must seek out people who uplift you.

Ken Honda:

That’s a great point! We absorb the energy of the people we’re around.

Warren, you’ve often said that choosing the right people to learn from is one of the biggest factors in success. What do you think about this?

Warren Buffett:

Absolutely. One of my most famous pieces of advice is:

“Surround yourself with people better than you.”

I always tell young people:

• If you want to be financially smart, spend time with people who understand money.
• If you want to be kind and happy, spend time with generous and grateful people.
• If you want to be successful, find mentors who have already achieved what you want.

Your environment matters more than willpower. If you’re surrounded by people who challenge and inspire you, success comes naturally.

Ken Honda:

That’s powerful! So if we want a better future, we should carefully choose who we spend time with.

Dalai Lama, let’s talk about happiness. We meet many adults—some are joyful and fulfilled, while others seem miserable and stuck. Why is that?

Dalai Lama:

Happiness does not come from money or status. Some wealthy people are deeply unhappy, while some poor people are incredibly joyful.

Some adults are happy, while others are not, because happiness is a mindset.

Happy adults have certain habits:

1. They focus on the present instead of worrying about the past or future.
2. They find meaning in their actions, whether in work, family, or community.
3. They practice gratitude—appreciating what they have instead of always wanting more.

Unhappy adults, on the other hand, tend to:

• Dwell on regrets or failures.
• Compare themselves to others.
• Chase success without enjoying the process.

Happiness is a choice, not just a result of circumstances.

Ken Honda:

That’s so true. I’ve met many rich but miserable people, and also ordinary people who radiate joy.

Adam, you’ve studied human behavior and success. What are the three key traits of happy adults?

Adam Grant:

That’s a great question! From my research, the happiest and most successful adults tend to share three key traits:

1. They give more than they take.

   • Instead of focusing on “What can I get?” they ask, “How can I help?”
   • Giving people build stronger relationships and feel more fulfilled.

2. They are lifelong learners.

   • Happy people never stop growing. They read, explore new ideas, and challenge themselves.
   • Stagnation leads to frustration—growth leads to happiness.

3. They choose their environment carefully.

   • They surround themselves with people who uplift them—not complainers or negative influences.
   • They seek out mentors, inspiring friends, and communities that align with their values.

Happiness isn’t just about mindset—it’s also about who you spend your time with and what you contribute to the world.

Ken Honda:

That’s a great list! Giving, learning, and surrounding yourself with the right people—those are powerful ingredients for happiness.

Let’s get practical now. Many young people want to meet truly outstanding people but don’t know where to start.

Warren, where can teenagers find mentors and role models?

Warren Buffett:

The good news is: Great people are everywhere—you just have to know where to look.

Here are some places to meet inspiring and successful people:

1. Books and Podcasts

   • If you can’t meet someone in person, learn from them through books, YouTube, and podcasts.
   • I never met Benjamin Graham when I was young, but his book The Intelligent Investor shaped my entire career.

2. Industry Events and Conferences

   • Attend workshops, networking events, and professional gatherings.
   • You’ll meet people who are passionate about the same things as you.

3. Volunteer and Internships

   • Helping in organizations, charities, or startups connects you to driven, successful individuals.

4. Online Communities

   • Today, you can connect with top experts on LinkedIn, Twitter, or industry forums.
   • Don’t just scroll—engage in conversations and reach out to mentors.

The biggest mistake young people make is waiting for mentors to come to them. If you want to meet great people, be proactive.

Ken Honda:

That’s fantastic advice! Instead of waiting for opportunities, go out and find them.

Dalai Lama, any final thoughts on finding inspiring people?

Dalai Lama:

Yes! Look for kindness. The most outstanding people are not always the richest or most famous.

Some of the wisest and happiest people are:

• Teachers who love their students.
• Community leaders who give without expecting rewards.
• Ordinary people who treat others with warmth and respect.

Inspiring people are not just “successful” people—they are the ones who make the world better.

Find those people, and you will learn true happiness.

Ken Honda:

That’s a beautiful perspective. Let’s summarize today’s key lessons:

Key Lessons from Today’s Discussion:

1. The people you meet will shape your future. Choose your environment wisely. (Dalai Lama, Buffett)
2. Some adults are happy, while others are not. Happiness is a mindset, not just success. (Dalai Lama)
3. Three key traits of happy adults:
   • They give more than they take.
   • They are lifelong learners.
   • They choose their environment carefully. (Grant)
4. Where can you meet truly outstanding people?
   • Books and podcasts.
   • Industry events and networking.
   • Volunteering and internships.
   • Online communities and social media. (Buffett)

To all teenagers listening: Your future is shaped by the people you surround yourself with. Seek out inspiring mentors, and happiness will follow.

Thank you all for this insightful discussion!

Imagining Your Parents as Teenagers

Moderator: Ken Honda
Speakers: Brené Brown, Esther Perel, Daniel Siegel

Ken Honda:

Welcome, everyone! Today, we’re exploring a unique topic—Imagining Your Parents as Teenagers.

Many young people see their parents as just “parents,” authority figures who set rules and tell them what to do. But what if we took a different perspective? What if we could see them as they were when they were our age?

Brené, let’s start with the first key point: Your parents were once teenagers too. Why is this such an important realization?

Brené Brown:

Because it humanizes them.

When we’re young, we tend to see parents as all-knowing, powerful, and in control. But the truth is, they were once exactly like you—nervous, confused, excited, rebellious.

They had dreams, fears, insecurities, and heartbreaks.

• Maybe your dad was a shy kid who struggled to make friends.
• Maybe your mom had big dreams but was told she wasn’t good enough.

The moment you realize your parents aren’t perfect superheroes, but real people with their own struggles, it changes everything. It helps you understand them not just as parents, but as individuals.

Ken Honda:

That’s a great point! If we stop seeing our parents as just rule-enforcers, we might feel more connected to them.

Esther, you’ve worked with families for years. If we had a time machine and could meet our parents as teenagers, what could that teach us?

Esther Perel:

Oh, I love this thought experiment! Imagine you step into a time machine and travel back 30 or 40 years.

You walk into a high school, and there’s your mom or dad—not as your parent, but as a teenager.

What would you see?

• Maybe your dad was a troublemaker who got detention for talking too much.
• Maybe your mom was a dreamer who wrote poetry and wanted to travel the world.
• Maybe they were bullied, lonely, or deeply insecure.

Seeing them this way reminds us that they weren’t born as “parents.” They were just young people trying to figure out life—just like you are now.

It also helps us answer big questions:

• Why do my parents act the way they do?
• What childhood experiences shaped their beliefs and fears?

For example:

• If your parent is strict about money, maybe they grew up poor and had to struggle.
• If your parent is overprotective, maybe they lost someone and fear losing you too.

Understanding their past helps us be more patient with them in the present.

Ken Honda:

That’s fascinating! A time machine would show us that our parents weren’t always “parents.” They had their own struggles, dreams, and mistakes.

Daniel, in psychology, reflecting on both the good and bad aspects of our parents is an important step in personal growth. Why is that?

Daniel Siegel:

Because it helps us break generational patterns.

Every parent passes down both good and bad habits to their children. But if you never reflect on those, you might unconsciously repeat unhealthy patterns.

Here’s how to reflect effectively:

1. Acknowledge the Good

   • Maybe your parents taught you hard work, kindness, or discipline.
   • Maybe they supported your dreams, even if they didn’t always understand them.
   • Maybe they sacrificed a lot to give you a better life.

2. Recognize the Flaws

   • Were they too strict, too distant, or emotionally unavailable?
   • Did they push their dreams onto you instead of letting you find your own?
   • Did they struggle with communication or expressing love?

Your goal isn’t to blame them—it’s to understand them.

Once you see both the strengths and weaknesses, you can decide what to carry forward and what to change.

For example:

• If your parent was too harsh, you can learn to raise your own kids with more patience.
• If your parent avoided difficult conversations, you can choose to be more open in your relationships.

This is how we grow beyond the past while honoring the good in it.

Ken Honda:

That’s so powerful! Understanding both the strengths and weaknesses of our parents helps us make better choices for our own lives.

Let’s summarize today’s key takeaways:

Key Lessons from Today’s Discussion:

1. Your parents were once teenagers too. They had dreams, insecurities, and struggles—just like you. (Brown)
2. What if you could meet your parents as teens through a time machine? You’d realize they were just figuring life out, too. (Perel)
3. Reflect on both the good and bad aspects of your parents. Learn from their strengths, but also recognize what you want to do differently. (Siegel)

To all teenagers listening: Your parents are not just “parents.” They are people with their own stories. The more you understand their past, the more you’ll understand your own future.

Thank you all for this wonderful discussion!

Clarifying Your Likes and Dislikes

Moderator: Ken Honda
Speakers: Elizabeth Gilbert, Simon Sinek, Marie Kondo

Ken Honda:

Welcome, everyone! Today, we’re discussing something fundamental to happiness and success—understanding what you truly love and dislike.

Many teenagers struggle with big life choices because they’re unclear about who they really are and what excites them. Instead of making decisions based on their own desires, they often follow what society, school, or family expects.

Let’s start with the basics: What do you love? What do you dislike?

Elizabeth, you’ve written about creativity and self-discovery. How can young people clarify what they love and what they don’t?

Elizabeth Gilbert:

Great question, Ken! The best way to figure out what you love and what you dislike is through curiosity.

Curiosity is the map to your passion.

Many people believe they need a big, life-changing passion to find their purpose. But the truth is, most people discover their passions by exploring small curiosities first.

Here’s how you can start:

1. Pay attention to what excites you. What subjects, activities, or conversations make you feel alive and engaged?
2. Notice what drains you. If something feels boring, forced, or frustrating, it might not be the right path.
3. Experiment fearlessly. Try new hobbies, read different books, explore ideas outside of your comfort zone.

You don’t need to find your one true calling overnight. Just follow what interests you and let that guide you.

Ken Honda:

That’s such great advice! Instead of waiting for a perfect passion to appear, we should start with small things that make us curious.

Simon, you’ve talked about how knowing your “Why” leads to a fulfilling life. How does this connect to understanding our likes and dislikes?

Simon Sinek:

Your likes and dislikes are clues to discovering your deeper purpose.

People who love what they do don’t just choose randomly—they align their lives with their core values.

Here’s how to think about it:

• What are the moments in life where you feel most fulfilled?
• What activities make you lose track of time?
• What kind of people inspire and excite you?

If you pay attention to those moments, you’ll start seeing patterns. Those patterns reveal your “Why”—the deep reason that motivates you.

For example:

• If you love helping people solve problems, you might thrive in coaching, leadership, or counseling.
• If you enjoy creating things, you might be drawn to art, design, or entrepreneurship.
• If you dislike strict rules and routines, you might prefer freelance or creative careers over corporate jobs.

Clarifying what excites you helps you make better choices. Instead of just chasing money or status, you’ll be choosing a life that genuinely fulfills you.

Ken Honda:

That’s powerful! When we listen to what naturally excites us, we get closer to a life of meaning.

Now, let’s shift gears a bit. Many people want to be charismatic and attractive—not just in looks, but in energy and presence.

Marie, you’re known for the idea of “sparking joy” in life. What are the common traits of attractive and charismatic people?

Marie Kondo:

Charismatic and attractive people have one thing in common—they radiate positive energy.

It’s not about physical appearance or social status. Instead, truly attractive people:

1. Know what brings them joy. They have clarity about their likes and dislikes, which makes them authentic and confident.
2. Live with passion. When someone speaks about something they love, their energy is contagious.
3. Create uplifting environments. They surround themselves with positive influences and let go of things that bring negativity.

Think about someone who lights up a room. It’s not because they are the best-looking person. It’s because they are fully alive and aligned with their true self.

Charisma comes from knowing who you are and embracing it.

Ken Honda:

That’s such a fresh way to look at charisma! Confidence and authenticity are more attractive than just trying to impress others.

Elizabeth, Simon, and Marie, let’s bring everything together. Why is it so important for young people to always choose based on what excites them?

Elizabeth Gilbert:

Because your passions will shape your future.

Think of life as a river. If you follow your genuine interests, the current naturally carries you forward. But if you go against your heart—choosing a path just because it’s expected—you’ll feel like you’re constantly swimming upstream.

When you choose what excites you, success becomes effortless.

Simon Sinek:

And that’s because passion gives you endurance.

No matter what career or path you choose, there will be challenges.

If you’re doing something just for money or status, you’ll quit when things get tough. But if you love what you do, you’ll push through setbacks and grow stronger.

Marie Kondo:

And don’t forget—choosing what excites you means letting go of what doesn’t.

Just like decluttering a home, declutter your life from things that don’t bring joy:

• Unfulfilling activities
• Toxic relationships
• Obligations that don’t align with your dreams

The more space you create, the more room you have for what truly matters.

Ken Honda:

That’s the perfect way to end this discussion!

Key Lessons from Today’s Discussion:

1. What do you love? What do you dislike? Pay attention to your natural interests and curiosity—they will guide you. (Gilbert)
2. What are the common traits of attractive and charismatic people? Confidence, passion, and authenticity make people truly magnetic. (Kondo)
3. Always choose based on what excites you. Passion leads to endurance, happiness, and long-term success. (Sinek)

To all teenagers listening: Your passions are your guide. Don’t settle for what others expect—follow what excites you, and your future will take shape in the best way possible.

Thank you, everyone, for this incredible conversation!

Thinking About Your Future Career

Moderator: Ken Honda
Speakers: Gary Vaynerchuk, Tony Robbins, Angela Duckworth

Ken Honda:

Welcome, everyone! Today’s topic is one that many teenagers worry about—Thinking About Your Future Career.

Society often pressures young people to decide on a career early, but the truth is, your career is a journey, not a single choice. You have time to explore, experiment, and adjust along the way.

Let’s start with the big question: What kind of job do you want in the future?

Gary, you’ve talked a lot about how people should choose careers based on what excites them, not just what’s “practical.” What’s your advice for young people thinking about their future jobs?

Gary Vaynerchuk:

The first thing I tell young people is: Don’t rush to pick a lifelong career at 18.

The job you think you want today might not be the job you actually love in 10 years.

Instead of stressing over picking the “right” job, focus on understanding yourself:

• What kind of activities make you lose track of time?
• Do you enjoy working with people or alone?
• Do you like creating things or solving problems?
• Do you prefer stability or adventure?

The more self-aware you are, the better decisions you’ll make. But the key is to try different things.

Ken Honda:

That’s great advice! Instead of trying to “figure it all out,” teenagers should focus on self-discovery through experience.

Tony, one way to explore careers is by trying various part-time jobs. How can this help young people make better career choices?

Tony Robbins:

Absolutely, Ken! Experience is the best teacher.

Many young people think, “I’ll figure out my career by thinking about it.” But you don’t think your way into clarity—you act your way into clarity.

Trying different part-time jobs gives you real-world exposure to different careers, industries, and skills.

For example:

• Working in retail teaches you customer service and sales.
• A job in a restaurant teaches teamwork and handling pressure.
• Interning at a startup teaches problem-solving and creativity.

Each experience gives you clues about what excites you and what drains you. It also helps you build a work ethic and people skills, which are useful in any job.

The more you explore, the better you’ll understand what kind of work environment suits you best.

Ken Honda:

That’s so true! You won’t know what you love (or hate) until you try it.

Now, let’s talk about a different approach—apprenticeship. Instead of just taking random jobs, some people choose to learn directly from someone they admire.

Angela, what are the benefits of becoming an apprentice to someone you look up to?

Angela Duckworth:

Becoming an apprentice is one of the fastest ways to learn and grow.

Instead of spending years figuring things out on your own, you can learn directly from someone who has already succeeded.

Here’s why this works:

1. You get real-world skills. Unlike school, an apprenticeship teaches you practical knowledge.
2. You gain insider connections. Your mentor’s network can open doors to opportunities.
3. You learn the habits of success. Watching a professional work every day teaches you how to think and act like a high achiever.

For example:

• If you love business, work under an entrepreneur.
• If you love music, assist a producer or musician.
• If you love technology, intern with a coder or engineer.

Instead of just reading about success, go and experience it firsthand.

Ken Honda:

That’s such valuable advice! Learning from a mentor fast-tracks your growth in ways that school alone cannot.

Now, let’s talk about an interesting idea—finding your life’s work by looking at what you loved as a child.

Gary, you’ve said before that childhood passions often hold the key to future careers. Why is that?

Gary Vaynerchuk:

Because your childhood passions are the purest version of who you are.

Before society told you what was “practical” or “realistic,” you naturally gravitated toward things that brought you joy.

Think back to when you were a kid:

• Did you love drawing or storytelling? Maybe you’re meant to be in design, media, or content creation.
• Were you always taking things apart and rebuilding them? Engineering or problem-solving careers might be your thing.
• Did you love talking, debating, or helping people? You might thrive in sales, teaching, or counseling.

Many successful people found their careers by reconnecting with what they loved as kids.

If you don’t know what to do, go back and remember what made you happy before the world told you to “be realistic.”

Ken Honda:

That’s a great way to look at it! Sometimes, the best career path is hidden in our childhood interests.

Angela, do you have any final thoughts on finding your life’s work?

Angela Duckworth:

Yes! Your career is a long journey, and it evolves over time.

The key is to stay curious, adaptable, and persistent. Some people find their calling at 18, others at 30, and some at 50. The important thing is:

• Don’t be afraid to experiment.
• Seek out mentors and role models.
• Pay attention to what excites you.

If you stay committed to learning and growing, you will eventually find the work that feels deeply meaningful to you.

Ken Honda:

That’s the perfect note to end on! Let’s summarize today’s key takeaways:

Key Lessons from Today’s Discussion:

1. What kind of job do you want in the future?
   • Focus on self-awareness instead of trying to pick the “perfect” job too soon. (Vaynerchuk)
2. Trying various part-time jobs can be an interesting experience.
   • Experience different fields to see what you enjoy (or don’t). (Robbins)
3. Consider becoming an apprentice to someone you admire.
   • Learning directly from an expert can fast-track your success. (Duckworth)
4. Find your life’s work by looking at what you loved as a child.
   • Your childhood passions can reveal your true calling. (Vaynerchuk)

To all teenagers listening: Your career is an adventure, not a single choice. Try new things, follow what excites you, and don’t be afraid to change paths as you grow.

Thank you, everyone, for this inspiring discussion!

Understanding That "Thoughts and Emotions" Drive Life

Moderator: Ken Honda
Speakers: Joe Dispenza, Louise Hay, Eckhart Tolle

Ken Honda:

Welcome, everyone! Today’s discussion is about something that influences every part of our lives—our thoughts and emotions.

Many people don’t realize it, but your mindset and emotions shape your reality. They drive your decisions, your habits, and ultimately, your success or struggles.

Joe, let’s start with this fundamental idea: You become what you think. What does that mean?

Joe Dispenza:

Ken, this is one of the most powerful truths in neuroscience and personal growth.

Your brain doesn’t just react to reality—it creates it.

Every thought you have sends signals to your brain. If you constantly think negative, fearful, or limiting thoughts, your brain reinforces those patterns. If you think positive, growth-oriented thoughts, your brain adapts to those too.

For example:

• If you keep thinking, “I’m not good enough,” your brain will find evidence to prove that belief true.
• If you think, “I can learn anything if I try,” your brain builds neural pathways to support that belief.

This is why successful people train their minds to focus on possibilities instead of limitations.

Ken Honda:

That’s fascinating! So, in a way, our thoughts shape our future before we even take action.

Louise, your work has shown how emotions influence behavior. How do our emotions control our actions?

Louise Hay:

Our emotions are like fuel. They power our actions—for better or worse.

Every choice we make is either driven by love or fear.

For example:

• If you feel confident and joyful, you’ll take risks, build relationships, and chase your dreams.
• If you feel fearful and insecure, you’ll hold yourself back, avoid challenges, and play small.

Many people try to force themselves to act differently without addressing the emotions underneath. But real change happens when you heal and shift your emotions.

One simple practice:

• Every morning, say something positive to yourself. Even just, “I am capable, and today will be great.”
• Over time, these thoughts shift your emotions, which then change your actions.

Ken Honda:

That’s a great point! We can’t just force success—we need to align our emotions with our goals.

Now, let’s discuss something that happens over time: As we grow older, emotions tend to dull.

Eckhart, why do people lose emotional intensity as they age, and how can they keep their emotions alive?

Eckhart Tolle:

Because as we grow older, we become trapped in our thoughts instead of truly feeling the present moment.

Children experience life fully. Adults live in their heads.

A child sees a butterfly and is filled with wonder. An adult sees the same butterfly and thinks, “I’ve seen that before.”

What happens?

• Society teaches us to suppress emotions—“Don’t be too excited,” “Act professional,” “Be serious.”
• We start living in routines and stop seeking new experiences.
• Our minds get cluttered with stress, responsibilities, and endless thinking.

To keep emotions alive:

• Be fully present. Notice small joys—sunlight, laughter, good food.
• Try new things. Travel, explore hobbies, meet new people.
• Let yourself feel deeply. Don’t suppress excitement, love, or even sadness.

A life without emotions isn’t life—it’s just existing.

Ken Honda:

That’s so true! Many adults feel “stuck” because they’ve lost touch with their emotions.

Now, let’s talk about a tough issue: blaming others.

Joe, why is it important that we don’t shift our personal issues onto blaming parents or society?

Joe Dispenza:

Because blaming others takes away your power.

If you always blame someone else, you give them control over your life.

• If you blame your parents, you stay stuck in old stories instead of building your future.
• If you blame society, you focus on obstacles instead of opportunities.

I’m not saying challenges aren’t real—some people face more difficulties than others. But the people who rise above obstacles take ownership of their thoughts, emotions, and actions.

Instead of thinking:

• “I can’t succeed because of my upbringing.” → Think, “I will learn from my past and grow stronger.”
• “Society makes it hard to succeed.” → Think, “I will find creative ways to overcome challenges.”

The moment you stop blaming, you take back control of your future.

Ken Honda:

That’s a game-changer! Taking responsibility for our emotions and actions is the key to creating a better life.

Louise, any final thoughts on how to shift from blame to empowerment?

Louise Hay:

Yes! It all starts with self-love.

If you believe you are worthy and capable, you won’t waste time blaming others—you’ll focus on making positive changes.

Here’s a simple exercise:

1. Every night, write down three things you did well today.
2. Instead of blaming, ask: “What can I do to improve?”
3. Surround yourself with people who focus on solutions, not complaints.

When you stop blaming and start taking action, life opens up in amazing ways.

Ken Honda:

That’s such a great way to end this discussion!

Key Lessons from Today’s Discussion:

1. You become what you think.
   • Your brain reinforces whatever thoughts you focus on. (Dispenza)
2. Your actions are controlled by your emotions.
   • Fear holds you back; confidence moves you forward. (Hay)
3. As you grow older, emotions tend to dull.
   • Stay curious, try new things, and live in the present. (Tolle)
4. Don’t shift your personal issues onto blaming parents or society.
   • Blame keeps you stuck; taking responsibility sets you free. (Dispenza)

To all teenagers listening: Your thoughts and emotions are shaping your future right now. Choose them wisely, and you can create a life full of joy, success, and fulfillment.

Thank you all for this incredible discussion!

Deciding What to Learn

Moderator: Ken Honda
Speakers: Naval Ravikant, Robert Greene, Chris Guillebeau

Ken Honda:

Welcome, everyone! Today’s topic is Deciding What to Learn.

Many teenagers assume that everything they study in school will prepare them for life. But the truth is, much of what we truly need to succeed isn’t taught in classrooms.

Naval, let’s start with this bold idea: 80% of what you learn in school won’t be useful in real life. Is this true?

Naval Ravikant:

Absolutely, Ken. I’m not saying school is useless, but most of the curriculum is designed to create obedient workers, not independent thinkers.

The modern education system was built for the Industrial Age, not the Information Age.

Think about it:

• Memorizing historical dates? Google can do that.
• Advanced calculus? Unless you’re an engineer, you won’t use it.
• Writing essays? Helpful, but no one in real life grades your thoughts.

The real world values skills, creativity, and adaptability—things most schools don’t teach. That’s why many successful people learn more outside of school than inside it.

Instead of relying only on school, young people should start learning independently. Read books, watch experts, take online courses, and experiment in real life.

Ken Honda:

That’s a game-changing realization! Education isn’t about school—it’s about learning the right things.

Robert, let’s take this a step further. The most important things in life can’t be graded. What do you think about this?

Robert Greene:

Ken, this is one of the biggest flaws in how young people are taught.

Schools teach you how to pass tests. Life tests you in ways school never prepares you for.

Think about the skills that actually determine success:

• Emotional intelligence—understanding people and relationships.
• Resilience—handling failure and setbacks.
• Decision-making—choosing the right opportunities.
• Creativity—thinking differently from the crowd.

None of these can be graded—yet they are far more important than your GPA.

History’s most successful people weren’t the best test-takers; they were the ones who understood how life works and played the game differently.

If young people want real success, they need to start learning beyond what school teaches.

Ken Honda:

That’s a powerful point. Some of the most valuable lessons in life come from experience, not exams.

Chris, you’ve traveled the world and studied unconventional success. What’s your take on this: Instead of just collecting knowledge, young people should focus on gaining wisdom and skills. Why is that so important?

Chris Guillebeau:

Because knowledge is useless if you don’t apply it.

The world doesn’t reward how much you “know” — it rewards what you can do.

I’ve met people with multiple degrees who struggle to make money, and I’ve met high school dropouts who became millionaires because they focused on practical skills.

Here’s the difference:

• Knowledge = Information. (Reading about investing.)
• Wisdom = Experience. (Actually investing and learning from wins/losses.)
• Skills = Action. (Building a business, selling a product, or writing code.)

If you focus only on learning facts, you’ll be stuck waiting for opportunities. If you develop real-world skills, you’ll create opportunities for yourself.

The best way to learn? Start small projects, take risks, and learn by doing.

Ken Honda:

That’s such an important shift! Instead of just memorizing facts, young people should focus on learning skills that allow them to create, build, and contribute.

Now, let’s talk about one of the biggest factors in success: Who you learn from.

Naval, how does our fate depend on whom we choose to learn from?

Naval Ravikant:

Ken, this might be the most important decision a person makes in life.

Who you learn from shapes your mindset, habits, and opportunities.

If you learn from:

• Bitter and negative people → You develop a scarcity mindset.
• Fearful and cautious people → You hesitate to take risks.
• Successful and happy people → You start thinking bigger and smarter.

That’s why successful people seek out mentors, books, and communities that challenge them to grow.

My advice: Be intentional about who you listen to.

• Read books from people who built real success.
• Follow experts who challenge conventional thinking.
• Surround yourself with people who inspire you, not limit you.

If you spend time with 10 people who complain all day, you’ll become the 11th. But if you surround yourself with 10 ambitious, creative people, your mindset will completely change.

Ken Honda:

That’s such a powerful takeaway! Your environment and mentors shape your future.

Robert, how can young people find the right people to learn from?

Robert Greene:

Look for people who have actually done what you want to do.

If you want to succeed in any field, learn from people who have already succeeded in it.

Here’s how to find great mentors:

1. Read biographies—Successful people leave clues. Their stories teach real-life lessons.
2. Find role models online—Follow industry leaders and study their mindsets.
3. Join communities—Surround yourself with ambitious, intelligent people.
4. Ask for guidance—Reach out to people you admire. Many successful individuals are happy to give advice to those who show initiative and respect.

Don’t just learn from teachers—learn from leaders.

Ken Honda:

That’s incredible advice! If young people choose the right people to learn from, their future changes dramatically.

Let’s summarize today’s key takeaways:

Key Lessons from Today’s Discussion:

1. 80% of what you learn in school won’t be useful in real life.
   • School prepares you for tests, but life values real-world skills. (Ravikant)
2. The most important things in life can’t be graded.
   • Success depends on emotional intelligence, resilience, and decision-making. (Greene)
3. Focus on gaining wisdom and skills rather than just knowledge.
   • Knowledge is passive; wisdom and skills create opportunities. (Guillebeau)
4. Your fate depends on whom you choose to learn from.
   • The people you surround yourself with shape your mindset and success. (Ravikant, Greene)

To all teenagers listening: Be intentional about what you learn, and even more intentional about who you learn from.

Thank you, everyone, for this eye-opening discussion!

Going on Your First Journey

Moderator: Ken Honda
Speakers: Anthony Bourdain, Pico Iyer, Elizabeth Gilbert

Ken Honda:

Welcome, everyone! Today, we’re discussing something that can completely change a young person’s life—Going on Your First Journey.

Traveling alone or exploring a new place isn’t just about sightseeing. It’s about discovering who you are, feeling both freedom and loneliness, experiencing the kindness of strangers, and embracing the adventure that comes with being young.

Anthony, let’s start with the first idea: Experiencing both the sense of freedom and loneliness. You traveled to some of the most incredible places in the world. What do young travelers need to know about this balance?

Anthony Bourdain:

Ken, traveling alone is one of the most powerful things a young person can do.

The moment you step into a new place where no one knows you, you realize something incredible—you’re completely free.

No one is telling you what to do. No one is expecting anything from you. You can wake up whenever you want, eat whatever you want, and reinvent yourself.

But along with that freedom comes loneliness.

• You won’t have your usual friends or family around.
• You’ll have moments where you feel lost or unsure.
• You’ll question whether you made the right choice.

And that’s a good thing.

• Freedom teaches you confidence. You learn to trust yourself.
• Loneliness teaches you resilience. You realize you can handle things on your own.

Every traveler experiences this mix of emotions. The key is to embrace both—because that’s where growth happens.

Ken Honda:

That’s a great perspective! Many young people fear being alone, but loneliness is part of the journey toward independence.

Pico, you’ve spent your life writing about travel as a form of self-discovery. What’s your perspective on this?

Pico Iyer:

Anthony is absolutely right. Travel is one of the best ways to understand yourself.

When you leave your home, your habits, and your comfort zone, you start to see who you really are.

In our daily lives, we’re surrounded by routines and familiar expectations. But when you’re alone in a new place, you start asking deeper questions:

• What do I actually enjoy, outside of what my family or school expects?
• Who am I when no one around me knows my past?
• What kind of life do I want to create?

Loneliness forces you to have conversations with yourself—and those conversations shape your future.

And then, just when you start feeling alone, something incredible happens—a stranger shows you kindness.

Ken Honda:

That leads us to our next point—The beauty of receiving kindness from strangers.

Elizabeth, you’ve traveled alone in places where you didn’t speak the language or know anyone. How does kindness from strangers change the travel experience?

Elizabeth Gilbert:

Ken, this is one of the most magical parts of traveling.

The world is full of good people—you just have to give them the chance to show it.

I’ve had complete strangers:

• Offer me food when I was hungry.
• Give me directions when I was lost.
• Invite me into their homes, just to share a conversation.

And here’s what’s amazing:

• When you receive kindness from a stranger, you start to trust the world more.
• You also realize that you can be that kind of person too.

Kindness connects us. And when you travel, you see that kindness exists everywhere, across all cultures.

So if you ever feel lonely on your journey, look up, smile, and talk to someone new. Most of the time, people will surprise you with their generosity.

Ken Honda:

That’s so true! Sometimes, the most meaningful travel experiences come from simple, unexpected moments with strangers.

Anthony, you always encouraged young people to see the world with an open heart. Why do you believe adventure is a privilege of being a teenager?

Anthony Bourdain:

Because there’s no other time in life quite like this.

When you’re young, you have fewer responsibilities, fewer expectations, and the ability to take risks without too much consequence.

Think about it:

• When you’re older, you might have a career, a family, or financial commitments that make travel harder.
• But when you’re young, you can travel on a small budget, stay in hostels, meet new people, and just go wherever curiosity takes you.

The problem is, many young people wait too long. They think, “I’ll travel when I have more money, when I’m older, when I have time.”

But the best time is now. Even if you can’t go far, go somewhere new—a different city, a different culture, even a different part of your own town.

Adventure is a privilege of being a teenager—don’t waste it.

Ken Honda:

That’s a great message! Travel doesn’t have to be expensive or extravagant. The key is to step outside your usual world and experience something new.

Pico, do you have any final advice for young travelers?

Pico Iyer:

Yes—travel with curiosity, not just a checklist.

The best journeys aren’t about taking photos at famous landmarks. They’re about experiencing the world in a new way.

If you go somewhere new, don’t just ask:

• What are the top tourist spots?
  Instead, ask:
• What do the locals love?
• What stories does this place hold?
• How can I see the world differently after this trip?

The best adventures change you. They teach you to appreciate the beauty in everyday moments, to connect with people different from you, and to see the world with fresh eyes.

So if you get the chance—just go.

Ken Honda:

That’s the perfect way to end our discussion! Let’s summarize today’s key takeaways:

Key Lessons from Today’s Discussion:

1. Experience both the sense of freedom and loneliness.
   • Traveling alone teaches you confidence and resilience. (Bourdain, Iyer)
2. The beauty of receiving kindness from strangers.
   • The world is full of good people, and travel helps you see that. (Gilbert)
3. Adventure is a privilege of being a teenager.
   • Youth is the best time to explore—don’t wait for “someday.” (Bourdain)

To all teenagers listening: The world is waiting for you. Step out of your comfort zone, meet new people, embrace adventure, and discover who you truly are.

Thank you, everyone, for this incredible discussion!

Finding a Lifelong Best Friend

Moderator: Ken Honda
Speakers: Dale Carnegie, Simon Sinek, Maya Angelou

Ken Honda:

Welcome, everyone! Today, we’re discussing Finding a Lifelong Best Friend.

Friendship is one of the most important parts of life, but not all friendships are equal. Some friends bring out the best in us, while others hold us back. The challenge is knowing who to trust, who truly supports us, and how to choose friendships wisely.

Dale, let’s start with a difficult truth: Many friends don’t truly wish for your happiness. Why is this, and how can we recognize real vs. fake friendships?

Dale Carnegie:

Ken, this is something most people don’t realize until it’s too late.

Not all friends want to see you succeed. Some feel threatened by your growth.

Here’s how to tell the difference:

1. A real friend celebrates your success. If something great happens in your life, do they cheer for you? Or do they seem jealous or distant?
2. A real friend wants what’s best for you. They’ll tell you the truth, even when it’s hard to hear.
3. A real friend lifts you up, not pulls you down. Some people only stick around when you’re struggling, but they disappear when you start succeeding.

True friendship isn’t about how long you’ve known someone—it’s about how they make you feel. If you leave a conversation feeling drained, doubtful, or insecure, that’s a sign you need better friends.

Ken Honda:

That’s a powerful lesson! Just because someone has been in your life for a long time doesn’t mean they’re good for you.

Simon, let’s talk about another harsh reality: If you make a foolish decision, you’re the one who will regret it. How do bad friendships lead to bad decisions?

Simon Sinek:

Ken, one of the biggest mistakes people make—especially young people—is choosing their actions based on what their friends think, instead of what’s truly right.

Your life is the result of your own choices, not your friends’ choices.

Let’s say you have a friend who always encourages reckless behavior:

• Skipping school, breaking rules, or taking unnecessary risks.
• Talking you into bad relationships or friendships.
• Convincing you to put off your dreams to "have fun" instead.

But here’s the thing—if things go wrong, who faces the consequences?

• You. Not them.
• If you fail a test, they’re not the ones who have to fix your grades.
• If you get into trouble, they’re not the ones who have to explain it to your parents.
• If you waste years in the wrong crowd, they won’t be the ones paying for your lost time.

True friends push you to be better. If a friend encourages bad decisions, ask yourself: Is this really the kind of life I want?

Ken Honda:

That’s so true! You are responsible for your choices, even if your friends influenced you.

Maya, let’s talk about a common mistake young people make—thinking their friends or teachers have all the answers. Why is it important to think for yourself?

Maya Angelou:

Because no one can live your life for you.

Friends can offer advice. Teachers can provide knowledge. But at the end of the day, only YOU can decide what’s best for you.

Here’s what young people need to remember:

• Teachers are human too. Some are wise, some are just following a system.
• Friends have their own struggles. Just because they believe something doesn’t mean it’s right.
• Even adults don’t have everything figured out. No one does!

That’s why self-reflection is so important. Learn to ask yourself:

• Is this advice really right for me?
• Does this belief align with my values?
• Will this decision make me proud in the future?

Trust yourself enough to think independently. That’s how you build wisdom.

Ken Honda:

That’s such a great reminder! Even the people we respect don’t always have the right answers—we have to think for ourselves.

Now, let’s talk about the deepest level of friendship: Can you trust this friend with your life?

Dale, what does this mean in real friendships?

Dale Carnegie:

Ken, this is the ultimate question to ask about a friendship:

Would this person protect you, stand by you, and truly have your back—no matter what?

Here’s how you can tell:

• When life gets hard, do they stay or leave?
• Do they defend you when you’re not around?
• Would they put your well-being above their own interests?

Many friendships are based on convenience, not loyalty. Real friends don’t disappear when things get tough. They stand by you because they truly care.

Choose your inner circle wisely—because the people closest to you will shape your future.

Ken Honda:

That’s such a deep insight! A real best friend isn’t just someone you have fun with—they’re someone you can truly count on when life gets difficult.

Simon, do you have any final advice for young people choosing their closest friends?

Simon Sinek:

Yes—look for friends who inspire you to be the best version of yourself.

If you surround yourself with people who challenge you to grow, you will naturally rise.

The best friends:

• Encourage your dreams, not hold you back.
• Celebrate your success, not get jealous.
• Give you honest advice, not just what you want to hear.

Friendship isn’t about quantity—it’s about quality. A few real friends are better than a hundred fake ones.

Ken Honda:

That’s the perfect way to end this discussion! Let’s summarize today’s key takeaways:

Key Lessons from Today’s Discussion:

1. Many friends don’t truly wish for your happiness.
   • Some people feel threatened by your success. Choose friends who genuinely celebrate you. (Carnegie)
2. If you make a foolish decision, you’re the one who will regret it.
   • Bad friendships can lead to bad choices—but only you face the consequences. (Sinek)
3. Neither friends nor teachers have all the answers.
   • Learn to think for yourself and make independent decisions. (Angelou)
4. Can you trust this friend with your life?
   • True friends stand by you no matter what—choose wisely. (Carnegie)

To all teenagers listening: Friendships shape your future. Choose people who make you stronger, not weaker. Surround yourself with friends who truly support you, and you’ll live a life filled with trust, joy, and success.

Thank you, everyone, for this inspiring discussion!

Falling in Love

Moderator: Ken Honda
Speakers: Esther Perel, Alain de Botton, Leo Buscaglia

Ken Honda:

Welcome, everyone! Today, we’re talking about one of life’s most profound experiences—falling in love.

Love has the power to transform us, to make us feel alive, and to teach us important lessons about ourselves. But it also comes with its challenges—learning to navigate emotions, understanding what real love means, and realizing that love isn’t always as simple as we think.

Let’s start with the first point: Falling in love is a beautiful experience.

Esther, you’ve studied relationships for decades. What makes falling in love such a powerful and beautiful moment in life?

Esther Perel:

Ken, falling in love is one of the most extraordinary experiences we can have as human beings.

Love awakens something deep inside us. It makes colors brighter, music more meaningful, and life feel like a story unfolding.

Here’s why it’s so powerful:

1. It makes us feel seen. When someone loves us, we feel understood and valued in a way we never have before.
2. It brings excitement and energy. Love gives us a natural high—it makes us wake up feeling more hopeful, more inspired.
3. It teaches us about connection. Love shows us how deeply we can care for another person and share in their happiness and struggles.

Falling in love is one of the few moments in life where we feel completely present—fully engaged in the now. That’s what makes it so magical.

Ken Honda:

That’s beautifully said! Love makes everything feel more alive, more meaningful.

Alain, let’s go deeper. Love also allows us to lose ourselves in another person. Why is this such an important experience?

Alain de Botton:

Because losing yourself in love is one of the best ways to truly discover yourself.

When we love deeply, we step outside of our own small world and into someone else’s reality.

For a time, we forget about:

• Our daily worries.
• Our need for control.
• Our usual self-centered thoughts.

Instead, we become completely absorbed in another person—their feelings, their happiness, their presence.

This can be a beautiful thing. It teaches us:

• How to be vulnerable.
• How to care for someone selflessly.
• How to truly connect without barriers.

But love also challenges us. When we lose ourselves in love, we may also confront fears, insecurities, and past wounds.

Love is not just about joy—it’s also about growth.

Ken Honda:

That’s such a deep insight! Love is about connection, but also self-discovery.

Now, let’s talk about something many young people struggle with: Love is either a yes or a no—there is no in-between.

Leo, what does this mean in relationships?

Leo Buscaglia:

Ken, love is not a place for half-commitments.

Real love is clear—it’s either a full “yes” or a full “no.”

Here’s what I mean:

• If someone truly loves you, you won’t have to guess. They will show up for you, care about you, and make you feel valued.
• If someone is uncertain, hot-and-cold, or only “half in”, then it’s not real love—it’s hesitation.

Too many people get stuck in relationships that aren’t fully alive. They:

• Wait for someone to change.
• Hope for more commitment that never comes.
• Settle for something that doesn’t feel whole.

But love shouldn’t feel like waiting—it should feel like being chosen, fully and completely.

If someone isn’t fully in, they’re already out.

Ken Honda:

That’s such an important lesson! If love is real, it’s obvious. If you have to wonder, it’s probably not the right love.

Now, let’s talk about one last lesson—Realizing that you’re still a child in many ways.

Esther, why is this important for young people in love to understand?

Esther Perel:

Because young love feels huge—but in many ways, you’re still growing.

Love at a young age is real, but it’s not always final. It’s a part of your journey, not the destination.

Here’s what young people need to remember:

1. You are still changing. The person you are today is not the person you’ll be at 25, 30, or beyond.
2. Your idea of love will evolve. What you want in love at 16 may be completely different from what you need at 26.
3. Mistakes are part of the process. You may get your heart broken. You may choose the wrong person. And that’s okay—it’s how you grow.

Love is not about rushing to find "forever." It’s about learning what love feels like, how to love well, and how to be loved in return.

You are still growing—and so is your understanding of love.

Ken Honda:

That’s such an important reminder! Young love is beautiful, but it’s part of the journey, not the final destination.

Leo, any final thoughts on how young people should approach love?

Leo Buscaglia:

Yes—approach love with an open heart, but also with wisdom.

Love is the greatest adventure you’ll ever have—embrace it, but don’t rush it.

• Love fully, but don’t lose yourself completely.
• Choose relationships that make you better, not just ones that feel exciting.
• If love feels confusing, it’s probably not the right one.

And most importantly—enjoy the process. Love teaches you about yourself more than anything else in life.

Ken Honda:

That’s the perfect way to end this conversation! Let’s summarize today’s key takeaways:

Key Lessons from Today’s Discussion:

1. Falling in love is a beautiful experience.
   • Love makes life feel brighter and more meaningful. (Perel)
2. Experience what it feels like to lose yourself in love.
   • Love teaches us vulnerability, connection, and self-discovery. (de Botton)
3. Love is either a yes or a no—there is no in-between.
   • If someone truly loves you, you won’t have to guess. (Buscaglia)
4. Realize that you’re still a child in many ways.
   • Young love is real, but it’s also a part of growing up. (Perel)

To all teenagers listening: Love is one of life’s greatest gifts—enjoy it, learn from it, and let it help you grow.

Thank you, everyone, for this beautiful discussion!

Learning a Foreign Language

Moderator: Ken Honda
Speakers: Tim Doner, Benny Lewis, Gabriel Wyner

Ken Honda:

Welcome, everyone! Today’s discussion is about learning a foreign language.

Many people believe that speaking another language is just about memorizing vocabulary and grammar. But in reality, language is a bridge to new perspectives, new cultures, and new opportunities.

Tim, let’s start with the first point: Speaking only Japanese (or any single language) limits your world. How does knowing multiple languages expand someone’s life?

Tim Doner:

Ken, this is something I realized very early on—language isn’t just about communication; it’s about connection.

If you only speak one language, you experience life through just one lens. But when you learn another language, you get access to new ideas, new ways of thinking, and new cultures.

Here’s what I’ve found:

• Languages shape thought. In some languages, there are words for emotions or concepts that don’t even exist in English or Japanese!
• Learning a new language gives you access to people’s true personalities. Many people express themselves differently depending on the language they’re speaking.
• It expands career opportunities. Knowing another language sets you apart in business, travel, and global opportunities.

For example, if you speak only Japanese, you experience the world through the Japanese perspective. But if you learn English, Spanish, or Chinese, you suddenly have access to billions more people, ideas, and opportunities.

A new language doesn’t just help you speak—it helps you think in new ways.

Ken Honda:

That’s such a powerful way to look at it! Language isn’t just a skill—it’s a new way of experiencing the world.

Now, let’s talk about an important truth: Learning a new language won’t necessarily make you happy.

Benny, you’ve taught people how to learn languages quickly. Why do you think people sometimes have unrealistic expectations about what language learning will do for them?

Benny Lewis:

Because many people believe that learning a language will “fix” something in their life—but that’s not how it works.

A new language can open doors, but it won’t automatically bring happiness.

I’ve met people who thought, “If I learn French, I’ll become more interesting,” or “If I speak another language, I’ll be more successful.” But the truth is:

• If you’re unhappy in your home country, moving abroad won’t suddenly change who you are.
• If you struggle with confidence in your own language, learning another won’t automatically make you a better communicator.

What a new language does give you is:

• New opportunities—but you have to take action.
• New friendships—but you still have to be a good friend.
• A new way to think—but only if you’re open to change.

Happiness comes from growth and connection—not just from speaking another language.

So if you’re learning a language, do it for curiosity and adventure, not because you think it will magically solve your problems.

Ken Honda:

That’s such an important message! A language is a tool—but what matters is how you use it.

Now, let’s talk about one of the best ways to actually learn a language—immersion.

Gabriel, you recommend that people try living abroad for at least a week. Why is this so valuable?

Gabriel Wyner:

Because nothing accelerates language learning like real-world experience.

When you live in a foreign country, you stop learning a language like a student and start learning it like a human.

Here’s why even one week abroad can change everything:

• You’re forced to use the language. No more textbook exercises—if you want to eat, get around, or make friends, you have to communicate.
• You hear real pronunciation. Classroom learning is slow. But in a real setting, you pick up slang, tone, and expressions naturally.
• You gain confidence. Once you successfully order a meal, ask for directions, or have a small conversation, your fear disappears.

Even if you don’t become fluent in a week, the experience will completely change how you learn moving forward.

The best way to learn a language is to live it.

Ken Honda:

That makes so much sense! When you’re surrounded by a language, your brain learns it naturally.

Now, let’s talk about another key aspect of language learning—making friends from different cultures.

Tim, why is this such an important part of learning a language?

Tim Doner:

Because language isn’t just about words—it’s about relationships.

The fastest way to improve a language is to connect with people who speak it.

Here’s why:

• Friendship makes learning fun. You’re not just memorizing words—you’re using them in real conversations.
• You learn the “real” language. Schools teach formal phrases, but friends teach how people actually speak.
• It breaks cultural barriers. The more you talk to people from different backgrounds, the more you realize how similar we all are.

Many of my best friendships started because I was learning someone’s language. It shows respect, effort, and curiosity—qualities that make people want to connect with you.

If you want to learn a language, don’t just study—make friends.

Ken Honda:

That’s such a beautiful perspective! A language isn’t just about fluency—it’s about building connections.

Benny, do you have any final advice for young people learning a new language?

Benny Lewis:

Yes—don’t be afraid to make mistakes!

Most people never get fluent because they’re too scared to speak.

But here’s the truth:

• No one cares if your grammar isn’t perfect. People appreciate your effort.
• The fastest learners are the ones who practice, not the ones who study the most.
• Every conversation is progress. Even if you struggle, you’re improving.

So don’t wait until you feel “ready”—just start talking. The sooner you use the language, the sooner you’ll truly learn it.

Ken Honda:

That’s the perfect way to end this conversation! Let’s summarize today’s key takeaways:

Key Lessons from Today’s Discussion:

1. Speaking only Japanese (or any single language) limits your world.
   • A new language gives you access to new ideas, cultures, and opportunities. (Doner)
2. Learning a new language won’t necessarily make you happy.
   • A language is a tool—it won’t fix personal struggles, but it can expand your world. (Lewis)
3. Try living abroad for at least a week!
   • Immersion is the fastest way to truly learn. (Wyner)
4. Make friends with people from different cultures.
   • Real language learning happens through relationships. (Doner)

To all teenagers listening: A new language isn’t just about words—it’s about expanding your life. Step out of your comfort zone, connect with people, and let language open new doors for you.

Thank you, everyone, for this wonderful discussion!

Encountering Life-Changing Books and Movies

Moderator: Ken Honda
Speakers: Neil Gaiman, Ryan Holiday, Steven Spielberg

Ken Honda:

Welcome, everyone! Today, we’re talking about something truly powerful—the books and films that can transform your life.

A single book or movie can change how you see the world, inspire new ideas, and even set you on a new path. Some of the most successful people in history were deeply influenced by the stories they read and watched.

Neil, let’s start with the first idea: Books and films can transform your life. Why do stories have such a deep impact on us?

Neil Gaiman:

Ken, stories are how we make sense of the world.

A great book or film doesn’t just entertain—it gives you new eyes to see life differently.

Here’s why stories matter:

• They teach us empathy. When you step into someone else’s world, you learn to see life from different perspectives.
• They give us courage. Many people find strength in stories that show characters overcoming struggles.
• They open up new possibilities. A single book can introduce you to ideas that completely change your future.

Think about it—how many people read The 4-Hour Workweek and started online businesses? Or watched The Pursuit of Happyness and found the motivation to chase their dreams?

The right story at the right time can shift your entire life direction.

Ken Honda:

That’s such a great point! Stories don’t just show us what’s possible—they make us feel it.

Ryan, one of the best ways to learn from books is by meeting the great heroes of history. Why is it important for young people to study historical figures?

Ryan Holiday:

Because history is the best teacher.

Great people leave behind clues—if you study their lives, you learn what made them extraordinary.

Here’s why it’s important:

• You see that every hero struggled. People like Abraham Lincoln, Nelson Mandela, or Marie Curie faced failure and rejection before success.
• You learn how they thought. Studying how great minds approached problems can change how you solve your own challenges.
• You realize greatness is possible. Many of history’s greatest figures were once just ordinary people—until they chose to think and act differently.

One of my favorite books is Meditations by Marcus Aurelius. He was a Roman emperor, but his struggles—self-doubt, stress, leadership—are the same things people face today.

When you read about great figures, you start asking, “How can I apply these lessons to my own life?” That’s how history becomes a tool for success.

Ken Honda:

That’s so inspiring! History isn’t just something we study—it’s something we can learn from and apply to our own lives.

Steven, movies also have the power to teach us how successful people think and act. As a filmmaker, how do you see this play out in storytelling?

Steven Spielberg:

Ken, one of the best ways to learn success is by watching people who have achieved it.

Films let us experience success and failure through someone else’s eyes.

Great movies teach us:

• The power of persistence. Movies like Rocky show that talent alone isn’t enough—you need grit and determination.
• How to overcome fear. Many people struggle with self-doubt, but films about underdogs and dreamers remind us that courage beats fear.
• That success is never instant. Most heroes fail multiple times before they succeed.

Even in my own career, I struggled early on. If you look at directors like George Lucas, James Cameron, or Martin Scorsese, they all had failures before creating masterpieces.

Great films aren’t just entertainment—they are blueprints for how to think, act, and overcome obstacles.

Ken Honda:

That’s such a great insight! Movies let us step inside the minds of those who dared to dream and succeed.

Now, let’s talk about something personal—never forgetting the moments that moved you.

Neil, why is it important to hold onto the books and movies that deeply impact us?

Neil Gaiman:

Because those moments become part of who we are.

The books and films that truly move us are like emotional landmarks in our lives.

Think about it—when you look back, there are stories that:

• Inspired you when you felt lost.
• Gave you hope when you needed it most.
• Made you believe in something bigger than yourself.

For me, reading The Lord of the Rings as a child shaped how I saw storytelling. For others, it might be To Kill a Mockingbird or The Alchemist.

The important thing is:

• Revisit those stories. They will mean different things at different stages of life.
• Use them as a guide. When you’re struggling, go back to the books and films that inspired you.
• Pass them on. Share the stories that shaped you with others.

A great book or film stays with you forever—it becomes part of your DNA.

Ken Honda:

That’s such a beautiful message! The stories that move us are more than just entertainment—they shape who we become.

Ryan, do you have any final thoughts on how young people should approach books and films?

Ryan Holiday:

Yes—read widely and watch with intention.

Don’t just consume content—let it teach you.

• Look for books that challenge you. If you only read what’s easy, you won’t grow.
• Watch films that make you think. Entertainment is fun, but stories that make you reflect are life-changing.
• Write down lessons from what you read and watch. Apply them to your life.

The best minds in history didn’t just read—they studied, took notes, and acted on what they learned.

Books and films are tools—use them wisely.

Ken Honda:

That’s the perfect way to wrap up this conversation! Let’s summarize today’s key takeaways:

Key Lessons from Today’s Discussion:

1. Books and films can transform your life.
   • A single story can shift your mindset and open new possibilities. (Gaiman)
2. Meet the great heroes of history.
   • Studying successful figures teaches you how to overcome challenges. (Holiday)
3. Understand how successful people think and act.
   • Movies can show us the habits, struggles, and victories of great minds. (Spielberg)
4. Never forget the moments that moved you.
   • The stories that inspire you become part of who you are. (Gaiman)

To all teenagers listening: The right book or film at the right time can change your life. Seek out powerful stories, learn from great minds, and let them shape your journey.

Thank you, everyone, for this incredible discussion!

Learning About Money and Business

Moderator: Ken Honda
Speakers: Warren Buffett, Robert Kiyosaki, Ramit Sethi

Ken Honda:

Welcome, everyone! Today, we’re discussing a topic that affects every part of our lives—money and business.

Many people grow up without being taught how money works, and because of that, they struggle financially their entire lives. But if you understand money early, you can make smarter choices and avoid financial stress.

Warren, let’s start with this important point: Many people ruin their lives because of money. Why does this happen, and how can we avoid it?

Warren Buffett:

Ken, the simple truth is: Most financial problems come from bad habits, not bad luck.

People ruin their lives with money because they don’t respect it.

Here’s what happens:

• They spend more than they earn. They buy things to impress others, instead of focusing on what they truly need.
• They fall into debt traps. Credit cards, loans, and “buy now, pay later” schemes keep them stuck.
• They never learn how money actually works. Instead of taking time to understand investing, saving, and budgeting, they live paycheck to paycheck.

The best way to avoid financial disaster? Live below your means and invest early. Even if you make an average income, smart money habits will make you rich over time.

The people who win financially are the ones who plan ahead—those who don’t, struggle forever.

Ken Honda:

That’s such a powerful reminder! Financial success isn’t about how much you make—it’s about how you manage what you have.

Robert, let’s talk about something many people overlook: Your income depends on the quality and quantity of service you provide. What does that mean?

Robert Kiyosaki:

Ken, most people think money comes from a job—but the truth is, money comes from value.

The more value you provide to others, the more money you make.

Let’s break it down:

• If you have rare skills (quality), people will pay you more. That’s why doctors, engineers, and top entrepreneurs make more than average workers.
• If you can serve more people (quantity), you scale your income. That’s why businesses and online influencers can make millions—because they serve thousands or millions instead of just a few.

If you want to increase your income, ask yourself:

1. Am I developing valuable skills?
2. How can I help more people?
3. How can I solve bigger problems?

Your financial future isn’t about how hard you work—it’s about how much value you create.

Ken Honda:

That’s a game-changing perspective! Instead of just working harder, focus on providing more value.

Now, let’s talk about a big question: Will you work for money, or will you make money work for you?

Ramit, why is this such an important decision?

Ramit Sethi:

Because how you think about money determines whether you control it—or it controls you.

Most people spend their whole lives working for money. Smart people make money work for them.

Here’s the difference:

• Working for money: You trade time for a paycheck. If you stop working, your income stops.
• Making money work for you: You invest in assets (stocks, real estate, businesses) that generate income even when you’re not working.

Wealthy people buy assets that grow in value.
Struggling people buy things that lose value.

For example:

• Buying a rental property → Money works for you.
• Buying an expensive car on credit → You work for money.

If you don’t start investing early, you’ll be stuck working for money forever.

Ken Honda:

That’s such an important mindset shift! The goal isn’t just to earn money—it’s to build wealth that grows on its own.

Warren, let’s wrap up with the final lesson: Understand the rules of money and free yourself from financial worries. What are the key rules everyone should know?

Warren Buffett:

Ken, financial freedom comes down to a few simple rules.

1. Spend less than you earn. If you save and invest even a little, you’ll always be ahead.
2. Avoid bad debt. If you have to borrow for a house or business, that’s fine—but don’t take on debt just to “look rich.”
3. Invest early and consistently. The earlier you start, the more your money grows. A $100 investment today can be worth thousands in the future.
4. Focus on assets, not liabilities. Assets (stocks, real estate, businesses) put money in your pocket. Liabilities (cars, luxury items) take money out.
5. Keep learning. The best investors never stop studying how money works.

Once you understand these rules, money stops being a source of stress and starts being a tool for freedom.

Ken Honda:

That’s such valuable advice! When you understand money, you gain control over your future.

Robert, any final thoughts for young people learning about money?

Robert Kiyosaki:

Yes—start now.

The biggest financial mistake people make is waiting too long to learn about money.

Even if you:

• Save just $1 a day, you’re ahead of most people.
• Read just one book on investing, you’ll know more than 90% of the world.
• Start a side business, you’ll gain skills that schools never teach.

Wealth isn’t built overnight—it’s built by starting small and being consistent.

Ken Honda:

That’s the perfect way to end this conversation! Let’s summarize today’s key takeaways:

Key Lessons from Today’s Discussion:

1. Many people ruin their lives because of money.
   • Bad financial habits keep people stuck. Plan ahead and live below your means. (Buffett)
2. Your income depends on the quality and quantity of service you provide.
   • Money flows to those who create the most value. (Kiyosaki)
3. Will you work for money, or will you make money work for you?
   • Build assets that generate income instead of just working for a paycheck. (Sethi)
4. Understand the rules of money and free yourself from financial worries.
   • Spend less, avoid debt, invest early, and focus on assets. (Buffett)

To all teenagers listening: Money isn’t just about making a living—it’s about creating freedom. Learn the rules, take action early, and build a future where you control your finances, not the other way around.

Thank you, everyone, for this incredible discussion!

Reflecting on Fate and Destiny

Moderator: Ken Honda
Speakers: Paulo Coelho, Alan Watts, Deepak Chopra

Ken Honda:

Welcome, everyone! Today’s discussion is about fate and destiny—two forces that shape our lives in ways we may not fully understand.

Many people wonder: Are we in control of our future, or is everything already decided? How do we attract good fortune? And most importantly, how do we make the most of the time we have?

Paulo, let’s start with the first question: What’s the difference between destiny and fate?

Paulo Coelho:

Ken, this is a question I explored deeply in The Alchemist.

Fate is what happens to you. Destiny is what you choose to do with it.

Think of it this way:

• Fate is external. It’s the circumstances you are born into—your family, your country, your talents, and even your challenges.
• Destiny is internal. It’s the path you create for yourself through your choices, beliefs, and actions.

For example, two people might be born into poverty (fate), but one may decide to rise above it and chase their dreams (destiny), while the other may accept it as unchangeable.

Fate sets the stage, but destiny is in your hands.

The moment you realize you have the power to shape your own story, you stop being a victim of fate and start becoming the author of your life.

Ken Honda:

That’s such a beautiful way to look at it! We can’t control everything that happens to us, but we can control how we respond.

Alan, let’s talk about another deep idea: Life is unequal, yet fair in its own way. How do you explain this paradox?

Alan Watts:

Ken, most people see inequality as unfair, but life operates on a much deeper balance than we realize.

Life is unequal in opportunities, but fair in the challenges we all must face.

Think about it:

• Some people are born rich, some poor.
• Some are naturally gifted, others struggle.

But here’s the universal truth:

• Everyone faces suffering in some way. No one escapes loss, failure, or hardship.
• Everyone has moments of joy. No matter your circumstances, love, laughter, and beauty exist.
• Everyone has the chance to grow. The richest person and the poorest person both face the same fundamental question: What will I do with my life?

Instead of comparing yourself to others, focus on what you can control. The question isn’t “Is life fair?” but “What can I make of my life with what I’ve been given?”

True fairness is found in the choices we make, not in the circumstances we start with.

Ken Honda:

That’s such an enlightening perspective! Life may not be equal, but we all have the ability to grow, adapt, and find meaning.

Deepak, let’s go even deeper—Why were we born? How can young people start to explore this question?

Deepak Chopra:

Ken, every person is born with a unique purpose, but discovering it is part of the journey.

You weren’t born by accident. There is something only you can bring into this world.

Here’s how to explore your purpose:

1. Look at what excites you. Your passions are not random—they are connected to your deeper calling.
2. Pay attention to where you bring joy. What do people thank you for? What impact do you naturally create?
3. Embrace challenges as part of your growth. Sometimes, our struggles shape our greatest purpose.

Many people think their purpose is something they need to find—but in reality, it’s something they need to uncover within themselves.

You were born to create, to love, and to contribute in a way that only you can.

Ken Honda:

That’s such a powerful message! Instead of searching for purpose outside of ourselves, we should look within.

Paulo, let’s talk about something everyone wants to know—how to attract good fortune. What do you think?

Paulo Coelho:

Ken, good fortune isn’t just luck—it’s a combination of mindset, action, and openness.

The universe helps those who take action toward their dreams.

Here’s how to attract good fortune:

• Say yes to opportunities. Fortune favors those who are open to new experiences.
• Help others succeed. The more you give, the more good things come back to you.
• Trust your intuition. Sometimes, luck is just recognizing when to take the right chance.

Most “lucky” people aren’t just lucky—they put themselves in places where luck can find them.

The universe will guide you, but only if you take the first step.

Ken Honda:

That’s such a profound truth! Luck isn’t about waiting—it’s about being ready when opportunity comes.

Alan, let’s end with a big question: Thinking about life expectancy and how to make the most of our time. How should young people approach time and life?

Alan Watts:

Ken, the greatest mistake people make is thinking they have all the time in the world.

Your life is happening right now. If you wait too long, you’ll miss it.

Here’s how to make the most of your time:

1. Be fully present. Don’t always live for “someday.” Enjoy today.
2. Take risks while you can. The biggest regrets are not the mistakes, but the chances not taken.
3. Don’t waste time on things that don’t fulfill you. If something doesn’t bring meaning, let it go.

The reality is: None of us know how much time we have.

• Some people live to 90 and waste most of it.
• Some live to 30 and make every second count.

A long life isn’t about years—it’s about how deeply you live each moment.

Ken Honda:

That’s such a powerful way to look at life! Instead of waiting for the perfect moment, we should start truly living now.

Deepak, do you have any final advice on how to live with a sense of destiny?

Deepak Chopra:

Yes—live with awareness, gratitude, and purpose.

The universe gives you life as a gift. Your job is to use it well.

Every morning, ask yourself:

• What am I grateful for today?
• How can I contribute to the world?
• Am I living in alignment with my true self?

The more aware you become of your own power, the more you realize that life is not just happening to you—you are co-creating it.

Ken Honda:

That’s the perfect way to end this conversation! Let’s summarize today’s key takeaways:

Key Lessons from Today’s Discussion:

1. The difference between destiny and fate.
   • Fate is what happens to you; destiny is what you do with it. (Coelho)
2. Life is unequal, yet fair in its own way.
   • True fairness is in the choices we make, not the circumstances we start with. (Watts)
3. Why were you born?
   • Your purpose is within you—uncover it through passion, joy, and challenges. (Chopra)
4. How to attract good fortune.
   • Say yes to opportunities, help others, and trust your intuition. (Coelho)
5. Thinking about life expectancy and how to make the most of your time.
   • A meaningful life isn’t about how long you live, but how deeply you live. (Watts)

To all teenagers listening: Your life is happening right now. Make choices that lead you toward your destiny, live fully, and embrace every moment.

Thank you, everyone, for this incredible discussion!

Living Your Dreams

Moderator: Ken Honda
Speakers: Oprah Winfrey, Richard Branson, Lisa Nichols

Ken Honda:

Welcome, everyone! Today, we’re discussing Living Your Dreams.

Many people go through life without ever pursuing their true dreams. But those who dare to follow their passions shine the brightest, overcome doubts, and unlock their unlimited potential.

Oprah, let’s start with this idea: People with dreams shine the brightest. Why does having a dream make such a difference in a person’s life?

Oprah Winfrey:

Ken, a dream is like a light inside you.

People with dreams radiate energy, purpose, and inspiration—because they are living with intention.

Think about the most extraordinary people you admire. What do they all have in common?

• They believe in something bigger than themselves.
• They wake up with excitement and direction.
• They inspire others just by pursuing what they love.

When you have a dream, you move differently, think differently, and attract opportunities.

Even when I was a young girl growing up in poverty, I dreamed of using my voice to make a difference. That dream pulled me forward—even when people doubted me.

A dream gives your life meaning and momentum. Without it, you’re just going through the motions.

Ken Honda:

That’s such a powerful perspective! A dream isn’t just about success—it’s about living with energy and purpose.

Richard, let’s talk about something that stops many people from chasing their dreams—the thought that “It’s impossible.” How can people break free from this mindset?

Richard Branson:

Ken, the only real impossible thing in life is believing you can’t do something before you even try.

Most limits exist in your mind, not in reality.

Every big achievement in history once seemed “impossible”:

• People said humans could never fly—until the Wright brothers did it.
• They said space travel was a fantasy—until we landed on the moon.
• They told me a dyslexic kid from England could never build a global business—yet here I am.

The key is to reframe the question:

• Instead of saying, “It’s impossible,” ask, “How can I make it possible?”
• Instead of thinking, “I don’t have the skills,” think, “How can I learn what I need?”
• Instead of saying, “I don’t have the money,” think, “How can I start small and build?”

Success isn’t about having everything figured out—it’s about taking the first step.

Ken Honda:

That’s such a game-changing way to look at challenges! Instead of saying “I can’t,” we should ask, “How can I?”

Lisa, let’s talk about the final point—You have unlimited potential. Many people don’t believe in their own greatness. How can they unlock their full potential?

Lisa Nichols:

Ken, the biggest lie people believe is that they are ordinary.

You were born with everything you need to create an extraordinary life. The only thing that holds you back is your belief system.

Here’s how to tap into your unlimited potential:

1. Rewrite your story. Stop repeating old beliefs like “I’m not good enough” or “I don’t have what it takes.” Instead, say “I am capable. I am powerful. I am ready.”
2. Surround yourself with people who push you higher. If the people around you don’t believe in dreams, find a new circle.
3. Take bold action. You don’t have to see the whole staircase—just take the next step.

I used to be broke, struggling, and full of doubt. But when I changed my mindset, my world changed. Now, I speak on stages worldwide, helping others do the same.

Your dreams are waiting for you. The question is—are you ready to step into them?

Ken Honda:

That’s such an inspiring message! The only thing standing between us and our dreams is our belief in ourselves.

Richard, any final advice for young people who want to live their dreams?

Richard Branson:

Yes—stop waiting and start doing.

The best way to chase your dreams is to take action today.

• If you want to be a writer, start writing.
• If you want to start a business, find a way to begin.
• If you want to travel the world, start saving and planning.

Most people spend their lives waiting for the perfect moment. But the truth is, there is no perfect moment—only the moment you decide to start.

Ken Honda:

That’s the perfect way to end this conversation! Let’s summarize today’s key takeaways:

Key Lessons from Today’s Discussion:

1. People with dreams shine the brightest.
   • A dream gives you energy, purpose, and the ability to inspire others. (Winfrey)
2. Get rid of thoughts like “It’s impossible.”
   • Every great achievement seemed impossible at first—ask, “How can I?” instead. (Branson)
3. You have unlimited potential.
   • The only thing stopping you is your belief system—rewrite your story and take action. (Nichols)

To all teenagers listening: Your dreams are your greatest gift. Believe in them, take action, and never let fear stop you from creating the life you want.

Thank you, everyone, for this inspiring discussion!

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