Ken Honda’s 17 Things You Want to Do in Your 20s

Ken Honda: 
Welcome! I’m so glad you’ve chosen to join me on this journey to explore what I believe are the 17 most important things to do in your twenties. Your twenties are an extraordinary time—a decade of adventure, self-discovery, and boundless potential. It’s a period when you can dream big, embrace risks, and experiment with your passions while laying the foundation for the life you truly want.

In this book, I’ve distilled insights from my own experiences and combined them with timeless wisdom to create a roadmap for making the most of this transformative stage of life. But I didn’t want this to be just another guide filled with advice. Instead, I imagined myself sitting down with some of the most inspiring thinkers, creators, and leaders from history and modern times for meaningful, lively conversations.

Picture this: I’m sitting across from Brené Brown, Richard Branson, and Thomas Edison, and we’re diving into the importance of embracing failure and learning from it. Later, I’m chatting with Steve Jobs, Elizabeth Gilbert, and the authors of Ikigai about how to find your passion and align your life with it. When it comes to building deep friendships, I imagine a heartfelt dialogue with Dale Carnegie, Simon Sinek, and Aristotle, uncovering the secrets to lasting connections.

Travel with me as I discuss mastering time and money with Robert Kiyosaki, David Allen, and Ramit Sethi. Join me in imagining how cultural exploration expands the mind as Anthony Bourdain, Rick Steves, and Yuval Noah Harari share their experiences. And when it comes to creating your own luck, I sit down with Saito Hitori, Napoleon Hill, and Richard Wiseman, unlocking strategies to invite fortune into your life.

Through these imaginary conversations, we’ll explore each topic in depth, weaving together timeless principles and actionable steps. These discussions are fictional, of course, but the insights are very real, practical, and intended to inspire you to take bold actions in your twenties.

Let this be your guide to living fully and intentionally, embracing both the challenges and joys that come your way. Together, let’s explore how to make your twenties the most transformative, exciting, and fulfilling chapter of your life so far.

Welcome to this journey of discovery and empowerment—let’s get started!

1 – Make the Biggest Mistake of Your Life

Participants: Ken Honda, Brené Brown, Richard Branson, Thomas Edison

Ken Honda:
"Welcome, everyone. Today, we’ll discuss why making the biggest mistake of your life can actually be the most valuable experience. Let's start with the idea that there are no successful people who have never failed. Brené, you’ve studied vulnerability extensively. How do you see failure as part of success?"

Brené Brown:
"Ken, I believe failure is where courage is born. When people embrace vulnerability, they open themselves to failure—and that’s where growth happens. As I always say, 'If you're not willing to fail, you're not showing up.' Success is often built on those moments of falling down and getting back up."

Ken Honda:
"That’s inspiring, Brené. Richard, you’ve built an empire, but you’ve also faced public failures. How have mistakes shaped your journey?"

Richard Branson:
"Absolutely, Ken. I’ve made countless mistakes—business ventures that didn’t work out, ideas that flopped. But every failure taught me something. For example, when Virgin Cola failed to compete with Coca-Cola, I learned to focus on areas where we could truly excel. I always tell people, 'Fail fast and move forward.' Mistakes are just stepping stones to something bigger."

Ken Honda:
"Thomas, you’ve famously said, 'I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.' How do you view mistakes, especially for young people starting out in life?"

Thomas Edison:
"Ken, mistakes are the best teachers. When I was working on the electric light, every failure brought me closer to the solution. For young people, I’d say, embrace the tense and nervous self you feel when you fail. That discomfort means you’re learning and growing. You must do things that excite you—and be willing to shine even when others doubt you."

Ken Honda:
"That’s profound, Thomas. Many people feel stuck because they’re afraid of failure. What advice would you give to help them move past that fear?"

Brené Brown:
"Fear of failure often comes from fear of judgment. My advice? Start by accepting yourself fully. When you fail, remind yourself it’s part of being human. This builds resilience and allows you to keep trying."

Richard Branson:
"I’d add this: Failure is temporary, but regret is permanent. When you’re nervous about taking a big leap, remind yourself that mistakes are part of the journey—and a good story for the future!"

Thomas Edison:
"To build on that, success is not about avoiding failure but learning how to recover. Every mistake is a chance to grow stronger and smarter."

Ken Honda:
"Thank you, everyone. If we can accept our tense and nervous selves, take bold risks, and do what excites us, we can turn even our biggest mistakes into powerful lessons. Let’s all commit to shining through failure."

2 – Find What You Love

Participants: Ken Honda, Steve Jobs, Elizabeth Gilbert, Ikigai Experts

Ken Honda:
"Thank you all for joining this discussion about finding what you love. It’s one of the most important things to discover in your twenties. Let’s begin with the idea that the earlier you find what you love, the more you can enjoy life. Steve, you famously said, 'The only way to do great work is to love what you do.' How did you come to this realization?"

Steve Jobs:
"Ken, it’s simple. If you don’t love what you do, you won’t have the perseverance to push through the tough times. In my twenties, I realized that passion drives innovation. I looked back at my childhood—at how I loved tinkering with electronics—and it led to creating Apple. I encourage young people to reflect on what made them excited as kids to find their true calling."

Ken Honda:
"That’s a great point, Steve. Elizabeth, you’ve spoken about creativity and passion in your book Big Magic. How would you guide someone in their twenties to find what they love?"

Elizabeth Gilbert:
"Ken, I often say, 'Follow your curiosity.' You don’t have to know your passion right away. Start by exploring what sparks your interest. Live quietly, deeply, and passionately, and pay attention to what brings you joy. I also recommend people simulate their lives—what would it feel like to do something you love versus something you hate? That contrast can be eye-opening."

Ken Honda:
"That’s fascinating, Elizabeth. Ikigai Experts, your work emphasizes finding purpose. How does the concept of ikigai guide young people to discover what they love?"

Ikigai Experts:
"Ken, ikigai is about finding the intersection of what you love, what you’re good at, what the world needs, and what you can be paid for. For young people, we recommend starting with what you love and exploring how it can align with the other areas over time. Quietly, deeply, and with passion, as Elizabeth mentioned, is essential to this journey."

Ken Honda:
"That resonates with me. What about the challenges of finding what you love? For example, not everyone feels they have the privilege to pursue their passion. How do you navigate that?"

Steve Jobs:
"Start small. You don’t have to quit everything to follow your passion right away. Experiment with it on the side. As you grow confident in what you love, you’ll find ways to make it a bigger part of your life."

Elizabeth Gilbert:
"Exactly. And don’t put pressure on your passion to make money immediately. Sometimes, doing what you love without any strings attached allows it to flourish."

Ikigai Experts:
"One more thing: Reflect on your childhood, as Steve said. Often, the things you loved as a child—before society told you what you 'should' do—hold the key to your passion. Revisiting those memories can be a powerful exercise."

Ken Honda:
"Thank you, everyone. If we can find what we love by reflecting on our childhood, exploring our curiosity, and starting small, we can create a life filled with joy and purpose. Let’s encourage everyone to embrace this journey early in life."

3 – Experience First-Class Things

Participants: Ken Honda, Marie Kondo, Martha Stewart, Yo-Yo Ma

Ken Honda:
"Thank you all for being here. Today, we’re discussing the importance of experiencing first-class things in life. As I often say, life becomes what you come into contact with. Marie, you’ve inspired millions to surround themselves with things that bring joy. How does this idea align with experiencing first-class things?"

Marie Kondo:
"Ken, I believe the objects and experiences we surround ourselves with have a profound impact on our lives. By choosing only what sparks joy, we elevate our daily existence. For young people, I recommend exploring high-quality items or experiences—not necessarily expensive, but ones that resonate deeply with their soul. These can set the standard for how they approach life."

Ken Honda:
"That’s beautiful, Marie. Martha, you’ve built a legacy on quality and elegance. Why do you think it’s important for young people to experience the best in life?"

Martha Stewart:
"Ken, first-class experiences broaden your perspective and inspire you to aim higher. Whether it’s tasting a gourmet meal, visiting a world-class museum, or appreciating well-crafted design, these experiences teach you what excellence feels like. In your twenties, it’s crucial to expose yourself to the best so you can recognize and strive for it in your own endeavors."

Ken Honda:
"That’s so true. Yo-Yo, as a world-renowned musician, you’ve experienced and created some of the finest art. How does experiencing first-class things impact a young person’s life?"

Yo-Yo Ma:
"Ken, experiencing first-class things connects us to something greater than ourselves. It could be listening to a symphony, watching a breathtaking performance, or even meeting someone you admire. These moments inspire and challenge us to grow. As I often say, art and beauty have the power to transform us. For young people, such experiences can open doors to new possibilities."

Ken Honda:
"Excellent points. Many young people may feel that first-class experiences are out of reach, either financially or socially. How would you encourage them to pursue these experiences?"

Marie Kondo:
"Start with small, intentional steps. For example, visit a beautiful park or try a well-crafted piece of furniture. First-class doesn’t have to mean extravagant—it’s about finding what feels exceptional to you."

Martha Stewart:
"Exactly. Seek out free or affordable opportunities—libraries, art galleries, or even local events. It’s not about spending a fortune; it’s about cultivating an appreciation for quality and beauty."

Yo-Yo Ma:
"And don’t forget that first-class experiences can be shared. A meaningful conversation with someone who inspires you can be just as impactful as a luxurious trip. The key is to be open to moments that move you."

Ken Honda:
"Thank you, everyone. If young people can see the world they admire, seek out transformative experiences, and surround themselves with things that elevate their life, they’ll set the foundation for a rich and meaningful journey. Let’s encourage them to explore and embrace excellence."

4 – Enjoy Life 100%

Participants: Ken Honda, Tony Robbins, Robin Sharma, Saito Hitori

Ken Honda:
"Thank you for joining me today to discuss how to enjoy life 100%. I believe that when we fully embrace life, we find the energy to pursue our dreams. Tony, you’ve inspired millions to live their best lives. How can young people approach life with this mindset?"

Tony Robbins:
"Ken, life is a gift, and the key to enjoying it fully is to live with gratitude and purpose. I tell people, if you’re having fun, you can give your all to anything you do. Focus on what excites you, and even when challenges come, remind yourself that life happens for you, not to you. Every moment is an opportunity to grow."

Ken Honda:
"That’s so powerful, Tony. Robin, your book The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari encourages people to live with intention. How does that philosophy align with enjoying life completely?"

Robin Sharma:
"Ken, enjoying life comes down to being present and finding joy in the simple things. It’s about creating your own opportunities to grow, connect, and shine. Even in moments of hardship, there’s beauty to be found if we slow down and embrace the journey. I often say, ‘Master your days, and you’ll master your life.’"

Ken Honda:
"Exactly, Robin. Saito Hitori, you’ve taught millions about the power of positivity and creating your own luck. What advice would you give young people about enjoying life to the fullest?"

Saito Hitori:
"We're lucky! Life becomes more enjoyable when you believe in your own luck and create moments of joy for others. To enjoy life 100%, make every effort to see the good in every situation. Carry a mindset of abundance, and don’t be afraid to grab opportunities when they come your way. Life is a game—play it with enthusiasm!"

Ken Honda:
"Such inspiring words, Saito-san. Many young people struggle with balancing good and bad moments in life. How can they embrace both without losing their positivity?"

Tony Robbins:
"It starts with understanding that good and bad moments are part of the same story. Celebrate the highs, but also find meaning in the lows. When you face challenges, ask yourself, 'What is this teaching me?' This mindset helps you see every experience as part of the process of enjoying life fully."

Robin Sharma:
"I’d add that we should focus on small wins every day. You don’t need grand achievements to enjoy life—finding joy in small, intentional actions can have a profound impact."

Saito Hitori:
"And remember to keep your eyes open for opportunities. Hold the key to your own doors, and when a chance comes your way, take it without hesitation. Life rewards the bold!"

Ken Honda:
"Thank you, everyone. If we embrace good and bad moments, actively create opportunities, and bring gratitude and positivity into our lives, we can all enjoy life 100%. Let’s share this message with young people everywhere."

5 – Fall in Love as If Your Life Depends on It

Participants: Ken Honda, John Gray, Helen Fisher, Nicholas Sparks

Ken Honda:
"Today, we’re talking about one of life’s most profound experiences: love. I often say that falling in love passionately is one of the most transformative things you can do. John, your work explores the complexities of relationships. What role does love play in shaping a person’s life, especially in their twenties?"

John Gray:
"Ken, love is essential—it’s where we discover parts of ourselves we didn’t know existed. In our twenties, we’re still figuring out who we are. Relationships help us grow emotionally and spiritually. But love requires vulnerability. Open your heart and embrace both the joy and the challenges of being truly connected to someone."

Ken Honda:
"That’s beautiful, John. Helen, your research into the science of love is groundbreaking. How can understanding the biology of love help young people navigate relationships?"

Helen Fisher:
"Ken, love is deeply wired into our brains. When we fall in love, it’s not just an emotional experience—it’s also a biochemical one. The brain releases dopamine, creating feelings of excitement and passion. However, as people age, the magnetic pull for love weakens. This is why your twenties are a special time to experience love fully. Understanding this can help young people approach love with both passion and awareness."

Ken Honda:
"That’s fascinating, Helen. Nicholas, your novels often explore the depth and intensity of love. What lessons from your stories can we apply to real life?"

Nicholas Sparks:
"Ken, love is about connection, resilience, and growth. I always tell people, imagine your ideal partner and hold onto that vision. Love isn’t always easy, but it’s worth fighting for. In my stories, characters often face adversity, but it’s through those struggles that their love becomes stronger. Real-life relationships are the same—embrace the challenges, and let them deepen your bond."

Ken Honda:
"That’s so true. Many young people feel uncertain about love, often questioning why they haven’t met the right person or why relationships fail. What advice would you give them?"

John Gray:
"I’d say, let go of the pressure to find ‘the one.’ Focus on being the best version of yourself, and love will naturally follow. Relationships should be about building something meaningful together—not expecting perfection."

Helen Fisher:
"Exactly. Sometimes the reason people struggle to find love is that they’re looking for someone to complete them. Instead, look for someone who complements you. Choose someone you can build a life with from zero, and you’ll find joy in the journey."

Nicholas Sparks:
"And don’t forget to stay open. Often, love finds us when we least expect it. Keep your heart open to possibilities, and you might just be surprised by who walks into your life."

Ken Honda:
"Thank you all. If we can live with an open heart, embrace love’s challenges, and work towards building a meaningful connection, we can truly fall in love as if our lives depend on it. Let’s remind everyone of the beauty and power of love."

6 – Find a Lifelong Best Friend

Participants: Ken Honda, Dale Carnegie, Simon Sinek, Aristotle

Ken Honda:
"Thank you for joining me to discuss the importance of finding a lifelong best friend. I believe that meaningful friendships are essential for a fulfilling life. Dale, you’ve written about the art of making friends. What’s your perspective on finding a best friend who lasts a lifetime?"

Dale Carnegie:
"Ken, lifelong friendships are built on trust, mutual respect, and understanding. In my book, How to Win Friends and Influence People, I emphasize the importance of being genuinely interested in others. To build a lifelong friendship, start by listening deeply and showing appreciation. These small actions lay the foundation for strong, lasting connections."

Ken Honda:
"That’s a great starting point, Dale. Simon, your work on leadership and trust also applies to personal relationships. What advice would you give to young people looking to build lifelong friendships?"

Simon Sinek:
"Ken, friendships, like leadership, are about creating safety and trust. A true best friend is someone who you can rely on, even in the hardest times. To find such a friend, you need to be willing to open up and be vulnerable. Relationships deepen when both sides feel seen, heard, and supported. The key is consistency—show up for each other regularly."

Ken Honda:
"Beautifully said, Simon. Aristotle, you wrote about the philosophy of friendship centuries ago. What makes a friendship evolve into a best friendship?"

Aristotle:
"Ken, in my work, I described three types of friendship: those based on utility, pleasure, and virtue. A best friend is one rooted in virtue—a relationship where both people encourage each other to grow and become their best selves. These friendships are rare and require effort, but they enrich the soul and last a lifetime."

Ken Honda:
"Such timeless wisdom. Many young people feel disconnected in today’s fast-paced world. What practical steps can they take to cultivate meaningful friendships?"

Dale Carnegie:
"Start by being kind and approachable. Smile, remember names, and take an interest in others. It’s amazing how small gestures can open the door to deep connections. And don’t forget to express gratitude—it strengthens bonds."

Simon Sinek:
"I’d add: Find a 'rival' who pushes you to grow. A true best friend isn’t just someone who supports you—they challenge you to be better. Seek out people who inspire you and share your values."

Aristotle:
"And don’t rush. Great friendships take time to develop. Focus on quality, not quantity. Even one true friend is a treasure worth nurturing."

Ken Honda:
"Thank you, everyone. If we can listen deeply, show trust, and invest in relationships based on virtue, we can create bonds that last a lifetime. Let’s encourage young people to treasure and cultivate these friendships."

7 – Reconcile with Your Parents

Participants: Ken Honda, Dr. Shefali Tsabary, Wayne Dyer, Leo Buscaglia

Ken Honda:
"Thank you all for joining me to discuss a delicate but crucial topic: reconciling with your parents. Many young people carry unresolved feelings toward their parents, and healing this relationship can change their lives. Dr. Shefali, you’re a leading voice on conscious parenting. How does reconciling with parents impact a person’s emotional well-being?"

Dr. Shefali Tsabary:
"Ken, our relationship with our parents often shapes how we see ourselves and the world. When healing occurs between parents and children, life changes dramatically. Letting go of blame and resentment helps us break free from patterns of emotional pain. Reconciliation is less about changing our parents and more about healing ourselves through understanding and acceptance."

Ken Honda:
"That’s profound, Dr. Shefali. Wayne, you’ve shared a spiritual perspective on family relationships. How can young people approach reconciliation with their parents?"

Wayne Dyer:
"Ken, I always say, 'Love is the answer to every problem.' Reconciliation begins with seeing your parents not as people who owe you anything, but as fellow souls on their own journey. When you love your parents without conditions, you free yourself from the burden of resentment. This shift can bring peace and clarity, not only to the relationship but to your entire life."

Ken Honda:
"That’s so inspiring, Wayne. Leo, you’ve often written about love and human connections. How can young people start the process of reconciliation if the relationship feels distant or strained?"

Leo Buscaglia:
"Ken, reconciliation starts with honest communication. It’s about saying, 'I want to understand you better,' rather than focusing on past grievances. Simple acts of kindness, like sharing a meal or listening without judgment, can open the door to healing. To live without regret, make the effort to mend things while you can. The time to act is now."

Ken Honda:
"Such practical advice, Leo. Many young people struggle with resentment toward their parents for past mistakes. How can they move past these feelings?"

Dr. Shefali Tsabary:
"Resentment stems from unmet expectations. The key is to recognize that your parents are human—they have flaws, just like you. Practice compassion and forgiveness, not for their sake, but for your own peace of mind."

Wayne Dyer:
"I’d add that forgiveness doesn’t mean condoning hurtful behavior. It means releasing yourself from the emotional chains of the past. When you forgive, you reclaim your power."

Leo Buscaglia:
"And remember, reconciliation is a process. Start small—maybe a phone call or a shared story. Over time, these moments build a foundation for deeper connection."

Ken Honda:
"Thank you, everyone. If we can love our parents unconditionally, let go of blame, and approach reconciliation with kindness and understanding, we can transform not only our relationships but also our entire outlook on life. Let’s encourage young people to take this brave step."

8 – Know Your Roots

Participants: Ken Honda, Alex Haley, Joseph Campbell, Malcolm Gladwell

Ken Honda:
"Thank you for joining me today to discuss knowing your roots. Understanding where we come from can have a profound impact on how we see ourselves and our future. Alex, your book Roots explored the importance of family history. Why is it essential for young people to connect with their roots?"

Alex Haley:
"Ken, knowing your roots gives you a sense of identity and belonging. We’re often influenced by things we don’t even realize, passed down through generations. For young people, exploring their heritage helps them understand the struggles and triumphs of those who came before them, giving them strength and perspective for their own journey."

Ken Honda:
"That’s beautifully said, Alex. Joseph, your work on mythology often ties personal stories to universal truths. How can understanding one’s roots help shape a life’s purpose?"

Joseph Campbell:
"Ken, our roots are part of the larger narrative of humanity. By connecting with your ancestry, you see how your personal story fits into the grand myth of life. Lifework can take three generations to complete, as you mentioned earlier. When we understand where we come from, our purpose becomes clearer, and we gain the confidence to pursue our vision with conviction."

Ken Honda:
"That resonates deeply, Joseph. Malcolm, you’ve studied how background and history influence success. How does understanding your roots affect personal growth and decision-making?"

Malcolm Gladwell:
"Ken, your roots shape your outlook on life, often in subtle but powerful ways. For example, understanding the values, habits, and lessons passed down in your family can reveal why you approach challenges the way you do. When you know the purpose behind your roots, you gain confidence in your decisions. This insight allows you to break negative cycles and build on positive legacies."

Ken Honda:
"That’s an excellent point, Malcolm. Some young people may feel disconnected from their roots, especially if they’ve grown up far from their ancestral homes or with fragmented family histories. How can they start reconnecting?"

Alex Haley:
"Start small. Talk to your parents, grandparents, or even extended family members. Ask about their experiences and the values they hold dear. These conversations can be incredibly revealing and inspiring."

Joseph Campbell:
"And look for the universal themes in your family’s story—struggles, victories, sacrifices. These are the threads that connect us all and remind you that you’re part of something bigger than yourself."

Malcolm Gladwell:
"Don’t underestimate the power of research. With tools like genealogy websites and historical archives, young people can uncover fascinating details about their ancestry. Sometimes, knowing even one small story from your roots can have a profound impact on your sense of self."

Ken Honda:
"Thank you, everyone. If we can understand the unseen influences of our roots, explore the universal truths in our stories, and take pride in our heritage, we can move forward with clarity and confidence. Let’s encourage young people to embrace their roots as a source of strength."

9 – Understand Your Talents

Participants: Ken Honda, Angela Duckworth, Howard Gardner, Daniel Pink

Ken Honda:
"Welcome, everyone. Today, we’re discussing understanding your talents, which is crucial in shaping your future. Angela, your work on grit has shown how passion and perseverance play a role in success. How can young people identify and nurture their talents?"

Angela Duckworth:
"Ken, talent is just the starting point. What matters most is how you develop it. Feeling your likes and dislikes is a great way to start. Pay attention to activities that make you lose track of time or bring you joy. Once you identify those, stick with them—developing talent takes dedication and grit over time."

Ken Honda:
"That’s so true, Angela. Howard, your theory of multiple intelligences revolutionized how we think about talent. What advice would you give young people who are trying to understand their unique abilities?"

Howard Gardner:
"Ken, every individual has a unique set of intelligences—whether it’s linguistic, logical-mathematical, musical, interpersonal, or others. The key is to recognize what you’re naturally inclined toward and focus on that. For young people, this means experimenting with different activities and paying attention to what comes naturally or sparks excitement."

Ken Honda:
"Excellent point, Howard. Daniel, your book Drive talks about intrinsic motivation. How does this relate to understanding one’s talents?"

Daniel Pink:
"Ken, motivation is often a clue to talent. When you’re intrinsically motivated—when you do something because it’s inherently rewarding—that’s a strong sign of talent. Young people should look for areas where they feel both competent and curious. Those are the sweet spots for developing true mastery."

Ken Honda:
"Many young people struggle to differentiate between what they’re good at and what they think they should be good at. How can they navigate this challenge?"

Angela Duckworth:
"It’s important to look beyond societal expectations. Just because something is popular or lucrative doesn’t mean it’s your talent. Take time to reflect on what feels authentic to you, and don’t be afraid to pursue unconventional paths."

Howard Gardner:
"I’d add that feedback from others can be valuable. Trusted mentors or friends can help you see strengths you might overlook. But always balance external feedback with your own intuition."

Daniel Pink:
"And remember, it’s okay to pivot. Early on, you might think one thing is your talent, but as you explore, you might find something even better. Stay flexible and keep learning."

Ken Honda:
"Wonderful insights. If young people can identify their natural inclinations, follow their curiosity, and remain open to growth, they’ll be well on their way to understanding their talents. Let’s encourage them to explore and embrace their unique gifts."

10 – Have a Specialty

Participants: Ken Honda, Cal Newport, Malcolm Gladwell, Seth Godin

Ken Honda:
"Thank you for joining me to discuss the importance of having a specialty. In today’s world, having a unique skill or expertise can set you apart. Cal, your book Deep Work emphasizes focus and mastery. How can young people develop a specialty that truly stands out?"

Cal Newport:
"Ken, the first step to developing a specialty is eliminating distractions. Mastery requires deep, uninterrupted focus on a specific skill or area. For young people, I recommend dedicating time each day to deliberate practice—working on the hardest parts of a skill to improve. Over time, this focused effort can lead to exceptional expertise."

Ken Honda:
"That’s an excellent starting point, Cal. Malcolm, your 10,000-hour rule highlights the time investment required for mastery. How does this idea apply to developing a specialty?"

Malcolm Gladwell:
"Ken, it’s not just about the hours—it’s about how you spend them. Practice with purpose and seek feedback to refine your skills. The twenties are the perfect time to experiment with different fields and discover what resonates. Once you find your area, commit to it and aim to be the best. Society values expertise, and a clear specialty gives you a competitive edge."

Ken Honda:
"That’s inspiring, Malcolm. Seth, your work in marketing encourages people to stand out by being unique. How does this concept apply to choosing and excelling in a specialty?"

Seth Godin:
"Ken, I always say, ‘Don’t aim to fit in—aim to stand out.’ To develop a specialty, focus on what makes you different, not just what makes you good. Find a niche where your skills, passion, and the world’s needs intersect. When you become the best at something specific, you create value that others can’t ignore."

Ken Honda:
"Such great advice. Many young people struggle with deciding what to specialize in or fear making the wrong choice. How can they overcome this?"

Cal Newport:
"Start by asking yourself, ‘What skills are in demand, and which ones align with my interests?’ Even if you’re unsure, begin building expertise in one area. Skills compound over time, and your specialty can evolve as you grow."

Malcolm Gladwell:
"I’d add that it’s okay to start broad. Experimenting in your early twenties can help you identify your strengths and interests. Once you’ve explored, narrow your focus and dive deep."

Seth Godin:
"And remember, specialization doesn’t mean limitation. Being exceptional at one thing often opens doors to other opportunities. Mastery in one area gives you credibility and confidence to explore others."

Ken Honda:
"Thank you, everyone. If we can commit to deliberate practice, identify unique niches, and embrace the process of mastery, we can help young people build specialties that set them apart and lead to fulfilling careers."

11 – Find a Mentor

Participants: Ken Honda, Oprah Winfrey, Robert Greene, Simon Sinek

Ken Honda:
"Welcome, everyone. Today, we’re discussing finding a mentor, a crucial step in personal and professional growth. Oprah, you’ve spoken often about the importance of mentorship in your journey. How can young people find a mentor who can guide them effectively?"

Oprah Winfrey:
"Ken, mentors are invaluable. The first step is to look for someone whose values and achievements inspire you. A mentor doesn’t have to be perfect—they just need to offer guidance and perspective that resonates with you. Building a genuine connection is key. Approach potential mentors with curiosity and respect, and be open to learning from them."

Ken Honda:
"That’s wonderful advice, Oprah. Robert, your book Mastery highlights the role of mentorship in achieving greatness. What qualities should young people look for in a mentor?"

Robert Greene:
"Ken, a great mentor is someone who challenges you, not just someone who supports you. Look for a mentor who pushes you to grow, even if it’s uncomfortable. Learn from both good and bad examples, and don’t be afraid to outgrow your mentor. As you develop, you might find that your needs change, and that’s okay."

Ken Honda:
"Such a valuable perspective, Robert. Simon, your work focuses on leadership and trust. How can young people build trust with a mentor and make the most of the relationship?"

Simon Sinek:
"Ken, trust is built through consistency and vulnerability. Be clear about what you hope to learn and be willing to share your goals and challenges. A good mentorship is a two-way relationship—it’s not just about receiving guidance but also showing your mentor that you’re committed to growing. The quality of your mentorship depends on your effort to nurture it."

Ken Honda:
"Some young people may feel intimidated about approaching someone they admire. How can they overcome that fear?"

Oprah Winfrey:
"Start small. You don’t have to ask, 'Will you be my mentor?' right away. Begin by asking thoughtful questions or seeking advice on specific topics. Over time, a mentorship relationship can develop naturally."

Robert Greene:
"I’d add this: be prepared to offer value in return. Whether it’s your enthusiasm, hard work, or unique perspective, show your mentor that you’re worth their time. Mentorship is an exchange—it’s not just about taking."

Simon Sinek:
"And don’t forget, mentorship doesn’t always have to be formal. You can learn a lot by observing someone from afar or reading their work. Sometimes, the best mentors are people you haven’t even met."

Ken Honda:
"That’s so true. If young people can seek out mentors who inspire and challenge them, build trust through effort, and remain open to evolving relationships, they can unlock incredible opportunities for growth. Let’s encourage them to take this important step."

12 – Encounter a Book That Changes Your Life

Participants: Ken Honda, Ryan Holiday, Mark Manson, Robin Sharma

Ken Honda:
"Thank you for joining me to discuss encountering a book that changes your life. Books have the power to transform our perspectives and guide us through life’s challenges. Ryan, your work emphasizes timeless wisdom. How can young people find books that have a lasting impact on their lives?"

Ryan Holiday:
"Ken, the right book often finds you at the right time. I always recommend reading broadly—explore philosophy, history, and biographies. Books like Marcus Aurelius’s Meditations teach principles that are just as relevant today as they were centuries ago. Young people should seek books that challenge their thinking and connect with where they are in life."

Ken Honda:
"That’s a great point, Ryan. Mark, your book The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fck* resonated with many young readers. How do you think books can change the trajectory of someone’s life?"

Mark Manson:
"Ken, books are like mirrors—they reflect truths about ourselves that we often overlook. A life-changing book isn’t just one you enjoy reading; it’s one that makes you uncomfortable in a good way. It pushes you to question your assumptions and face hard truths. For young people, I’d say, don’t just read for entertainment—read for transformation."

Ken Honda:
"That’s so insightful, Mark. Robin, your book The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari has inspired countless readers. What advice would you give to young people about the role books play in personal growth?"

Robin Sharma:
"Ken, books are among the greatest tools for self-discovery. I often tell people, 'The book you don’t want to read is probably the one you need the most.' Life-changing books introduce you to ideas and perspectives you’ve never considered. They also teach that there’s no wasted effort in the learning process. Everything you read shapes who you are."

Ken Honda:
"Many young people say they don’t have time to read or don’t know where to start. How can they overcome these obstacles?"

Ryan Holiday:
"Start by making reading a daily habit, even if it’s just for 10 minutes. Keep a book with you at all times, and you’ll be surprised how often you can sneak in a few pages. And remember, it’s not about finishing quickly—it’s about absorbing and reflecting on what you read."

Mark Manson:
"I’d add, don’t feel pressured to read what everyone else is reading. Choose books that speak to your current challenges or interests. The more personal the connection, the more impactful the book will be."

Robin Sharma:
"And remember, reading isn’t a race. It’s better to deeply understand one book than skim through ten. Take notes, reflect, and apply what you’ve learned to your life."

Ken Honda:
"Thank you, everyone. If young people can read intentionally, choose books that challenge them, and integrate the lessons into their lives, they can unlock new perspectives and discover transformative wisdom. Let’s inspire them to pick up that one book that could change everything."

13 – Strengthen Your Questioning Ability

Participants: Ken Honda, Tim Ferriss, Clayton Christensen, Socrates

Ken Honda:
"Thank you all for joining me to discuss strengthening your questioning ability. I believe the questions we ask ourselves and others shape our future. Tim, you’ve built your career on asking powerful questions. How can young people develop the skill of asking better questions?"

Tim Ferriss:
"Ken, great questions are the key to unlocking creative solutions and personal growth. I often use questions like, 'What’s the worst that could happen?' to overcome fear and take action. For young people, I recommend starting with self-reflection. Ask yourself, ‘What do I want, and why does it matter?’ This clarity will guide your decisions and open new doors."

Ken Honda:
"That’s fantastic advice, Tim. Clayton, your work emphasizes asking meaningful questions to find purpose in life. What role do questions play in helping young people navigate their twenties?"

Clayton Christensen:
"Ken, the questions we ask shape the life we create. In my book How Will You Measure Your Life? I encourage people to ask, ‘What truly brings me fulfillment?’ For young people, focusing on long-term values rather than short-term gains is critical. Questions are like compasses—they point us toward the life we want to build."

Ken Honda:
"Socrates, you famously said, 'The unexamined life is not worth living.' How can the practice of questioning improve the lives of young people?"

Socrates:
"Ken, questions are the foundation of wisdom. To strengthen one’s questioning ability, one must first cultivate curiosity and humility. Begin by asking ‘Why?’ and do not stop until you reach the essence of the matter. For young people, this practice will lead to self-awareness, deeper understanding, and better decision-making."

Ken Honda:
"That’s profound, Socrates. Many young people might hesitate to ask questions, fearing they’ll seem uninformed or unsure. How can they overcome this hesitation?"

Tim Ferriss:
"Reframe how you see questions. Instead of thinking they expose your weaknesses, see them as tools for growth. Asking a question means you care enough to learn. The smartest people I know are also the most curious."

Clayton Christensen:
"I’d add that asking good questions is a skill that improves with practice. Start by observing the questions others ask—mentors, leaders, even friends. Learn from them and adapt their techniques."

Socrates:
"And remember, there is no shame in seeking knowledge. Every question, no matter how simple, is a step toward greater understanding. True wisdom begins when you admit that you do not know everything."

Ken Honda:
"Thank you, everyone. If young people can embrace curiosity, practice self-reflection, and use questions as tools for growth, they’ll unlock their full potential. Let’s encourage them to ask boldly and live examined lives."

14 – Learn to Manage Money and Time

Participants: Ken Honda, Robert Kiyosaki, David Allen, Ramit Sethi

Ken Honda:
"Thank you for joining me to discuss learning to manage money and time, two of life’s most precious resources. Robert, your book Rich Dad Poor Dad has transformed how people think about money. What advice would you give to young people about managing their finances effectively?"

Robert Kiyosaki:
"Ken, the key is to understand the difference between assets and liabilities. How you manage your money shapes your future. For young people, focus on investing in assets—things that put money in your pocket—like stocks, real estate, or even skills that increase your earning potential. Avoid wasting money on things that don’t provide long-term value."

Ken Honda:
"Wise words, Robert. David, your book Getting Things Done is a cornerstone for time management. How can young people master their time and become more productive?"

David Allen:
"Ken, time is our most limited resource, so managing it well is essential. I tell people to capture everything—tasks, ideas, goals—and organize them into actionable steps. For young people, start by clarifying your priorities. Ask yourself, ‘What’s the next action I can take to move forward?’ This practice keeps you focused and reduces overwhelm."

Ken Honda:
"Excellent advice, David. Ramit, your book I Will Teach You to Be Rich combines practical money management with psychology. How should young people approach their relationship with money?"

Ramit Sethi:
"Ken, money is a tool to design your rich life. Start by understanding your spending and investing balance. Automate your finances—set up systems for saving, investing, and spending so you don’t have to think about it every day. For young people, focus on small wins, like negotiating a higher salary or cutting unnecessary expenses. These add up over time."

Ken Honda:
"Many young people struggle with balancing immediate desires and long-term goals. How can they align their money and time management with their aspirations?"

Robert Kiyosaki:
"Think long-term. Every dollar you spend today is a decision about your future. Ask yourself, ‘Is this helping me build wealth or keeping me in debt?’ Developing financial literacy early will give you more freedom later."

David Allen:
"For time, the key is knowing what’s important. Create systems to handle the small stuff so you can focus on what truly matters. Use your twenties to experiment and learn how you work best—it’s a time to develop habits that will serve you for life."

Ramit Sethi:
"And don’t forget to invest in yourself. Spending money on education, skills, or experiences that align with your goals is never wasted. Just make sure those investments reflect your vision for a rich life."

Ken Honda:
"Thank you, everyone. If young people can prioritize wisely, invest in assets and skills, and create systems to manage money and time, they’ll set themselves up for a fulfilling and financially secure life. Let’s inspire them to take charge of these resources today."

15 – Have a Hobby You Can Immerse Yourself In

Participants: Ken Honda, Austin Kleon, Elizabeth Gilbert, Hugh Howey

Ken Honda:
"Thank you for joining me to discuss the importance of having a hobby you can immerse yourself in. A fulfilling hobby can add so much joy to life. Austin, your book Steal Like an Artist encourages creative exploration. Why is having a hobby essential, especially for young people?"

Austin Kleon:
"Ken, hobbies are where creativity thrives. They’re a way to explore your passions without pressure. A hobby doesn’t have to be productive—it just has to be yours. For young people, hobbies are a safe space to experiment and learn about themselves. Sometimes, what starts as a hobby can even lead to unexpected opportunities."

Ken Honda:
"That’s so true, Austin. Elizabeth, your book Big Magic inspires people to embrace their creative side. How can a hobby contribute to personal growth?"

Elizabeth Gilbert:
"Ken, hobbies remind us to follow our curiosity. They take us out of our routines and into a state of flow, where time seems to disappear. A good hobby doesn’t need to lead anywhere—it just needs to bring you joy. But often, it’s through these small joys that we discover bigger parts of ourselves. Hobbies teach us to find meaning in the moment."

Ken Honda:
"Beautifully said, Elizabeth. Hugh, your journey as a writer began with a passion for storytelling. How can young people turn their hobbies into something meaningful or even life-changing?"

Hugh Howey:
"Ken, hobbies give us the freedom to fail, which is where real growth happens. When I started writing, it was just for fun. But as I immersed myself in it, I realized it was my true calling. For young people, I’d say, don’t overthink your hobbies—just start. Sometimes, they’ll remain a source of personal joy, and other times, they might evolve into something bigger."

Ken Honda:
"Many young people feel they don’t have time for hobbies or don’t know what they enjoy. How can they overcome these barriers?"

Austin Kleon:
"Start small. Set aside just 15 minutes a day to explore something that interests you. It could be drawing, cooking, or even learning a new skill. The key is to make it a habit—once you start, you’ll naturally find more time for it."

Elizabeth Gilbert:
"I’d add: Don’t put pressure on yourself to be ‘good’ at it. A hobby isn’t about achievement—it’s about enjoyment. Give yourself permission to play and be a beginner."

Hugh Howey:
"And be patient. You might not find your perfect hobby right away, and that’s okay. Try different things, and don’t be afraid to quit something if it doesn’t feel right. The journey is just as valuable as the destination."

Ken Honda:
"Thank you, everyone. If young people can explore their curiosity, embrace playfulness, and make time for hobbies, they’ll discover new layers of joy and meaning in their lives. Let’s encourage them to dive into something they love, no matter how small."

16 – Embark on a Journey to Experience Other Cultures

Participants: Ken Honda, Anthony Bourdain, Rick Steves, Yuval Noah Harari

Ken Honda:
"Welcome, everyone. Today, we’re discussing the transformative power of experiencing other cultures. I believe travel broadens the mind and fosters gratitude for life. Anthony, you’ve spent your career exploring cultures through food and stories. Why is it important for young people to embark on such journeys?"

Anthony Bourdain:
"Ken, experiencing other cultures forces you to step outside your comfort zone. The range of your movement determines the range of your awareness. Through travel, you realize how vast and diverse the world is. For young people, immersing themselves in different cultures teaches humility, empathy, and a deeper appreciation for life."

Ken Honda:
"That’s beautifully said, Anthony. Rick, your travel guides have inspired countless people to explore the world. What advice would you give to young people about making cultural experiences meaningful?"

Rick Steves:
"Ken, the key is to travel with an open heart and mind. Stay curious and engage with locals wherever you go. Don’t just visit the tourist spots—go to markets, join festivals, and try to understand the daily lives of the people. These moments give you a richer perspective on the world and on your own life."

Ken Honda:
"That’s wonderful advice. Yuval, your work often connects historical and cultural perspectives. How does experiencing other cultures help young people understand themselves and humanity better?"

Yuval Noah Harari:
"Ken, cultures are like mirrors—they reflect what it means to be human. When young people experience cultures different from their own, they realize that their way of thinking is not the only way. By understanding the unfamiliar, we better understand ourselves. This kind of journey fosters global awareness and a sense of shared humanity."

Ken Honda:
"Many young people feel they lack the resources or confidence to travel. How can they start exploring other cultures even on a limited budget?"

Anthony Bourdain:
"You don’t have to go far to experience another culture. Start with your local community—visit immigrant-owned restaurants, attend cultural festivals, or volunteer in multicultural settings. Travel is a state of mind—it’s about curiosity, not distance."

Rick Steves:
"Budget travel is also a great option. Hostels, couchsurfing, and working holidays can make international travel affordable. It’s not about luxury; it’s about connection. Prioritize experiences over comfort."

Yuval Noah Harari:
"And remember, travel isn’t the only way to experience other cultures. Reading books, watching documentaries, and learning languages are powerful ways to expand your worldview from home."

Ken Honda:
"Thank you, everyone. If young people can embrace curiosity, engage with diverse cultures, and step outside their comfort zones, they’ll gain invaluable insights about the world and themselves. Let’s encourage them to take that first step toward broadening their horizons."

17 – Learn About Luck

Participants: Ken Honda, Richard Wiseman, Saito Hitori, Napoleon Hill

Ken Honda:
"Thank you for joining me to discuss learning about luck, a concept that has intrigued people for centuries. Richard, your book The Luck Factor explores what makes some people luckier than others. How can young people cultivate luck in their lives?"

Richard Wiseman:
"Ken, luck isn’t just about chance—it’s a skill you can develop. My research shows that lucky people share certain traits: they’re open to opportunities, maintain a positive outlook, and are willing to take risks. For young people, this means creating situations where luck can find you—networking, saying yes to new experiences, and staying alert to unexpected opportunities."

Ken Honda:
"That’s fascinating, Richard. Saito-san, your philosophy emphasizes creating your own luck through positivity and mindset. How do you teach people to bring luck into their lives?"

Saito Hitori:
"We’re lucky! Luck starts with your words and thoughts. Speak positively, and believe that good things will come your way. When you share joy with others, you create a cycle of good fortune that returns to you. I always say, carry a mindset of abundance, because luck is something you create together with the people around you."

Ken Honda:
"That’s such an uplifting perspective, Saito-san. Napoleon, your book Think and Grow Rich discusses the role of luck in success. How do determination and intuition play into creating your own luck?"

Napoleon Hill:
"Ken, luck favors those who are prepared. Successful people recognize opportunities because they’ve trained themselves to see them. Trusting your intuition is key—your subconscious often picks up on opportunities before your conscious mind does. Combine this with persistence, and you’ll create the conditions for luck to work in your favor."

Ken Honda:
"Many young people feel unlucky or think they’re at the mercy of external circumstances. How can they shift their mindset to invite more luck into their lives?"

Richard Wiseman:
"Start by reframing how you view setbacks. Instead of thinking, ‘I’m unlucky,’ ask, ‘What can I learn from this?’ Lucky people turn failures into stepping stones for success. Cultivating gratitude also helps—recognizing the good in your life attracts more of it."

Saito Hitori:
"I’d add: Use heaven words—words of encouragement, hope, and positivity. When you uplift others, you raise your own energy and invite good fortune. The more you say, ‘I’m lucky,’ the more luck becomes your reality."

Napoleon Hill:
"And don’t forget action. Luck doesn’t just happen—you have to work for it. Set clear goals, take consistent steps toward them, and stay open to opportunities that align with your vision."

Ken Honda:
"Thank you, everyone. If young people can embrace positivity, trust their intuition, and actively seek opportunities, they can create a life full of good fortune. Let’s encourage them to believe in their ability to shape their own luck."

Short Bios:

Brené Brown

• A researcher and author known for her work on vulnerability, courage, and resilience.
• Bestselling books include Daring Greatly and The Gifts of Imperfection.

Richard Branson

• Founder of the Virgin Group, known for his entrepreneurial spirit and adventurous mindset.
• Advocate of “failing forward” and taking calculated risks in business and life.

Thomas Edison

• Prolific inventor credited with innovations like the light bulb and phonograph.
• Famous for his perspective on learning through failure and persistence.

Steve Jobs

• Co-founder of Apple, revolutionized technology with innovations like the iPhone and Mac.
• A visionary who emphasized following your passion and doing what you love.

Elizabeth Gilbert

• Author of Eat, Pray, Love and Big Magic, focusing on creativity and self-discovery.
• Inspires readers to embrace curiosity and find joy in life.

6. Ikigai Experts

• Authors of Ikigai: The Japanese Secret to a Long and Happy Life, exploring purpose.
• Advocates for finding the intersection of passion, mission, vocation, and profession.

Marie Kondo

• Organizing consultant and author of The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up.
• Encourages people to surround themselves with things that “spark joy.”

Martha Stewart

• Lifestyle expert and businesswoman known for her focus on quality living and design.
• Inspires people to appreciate beauty and elegance in everyday life.

Yo-Yo Ma

• World-renowned cellist celebrated for his artistry and contributions to music.
• Advocates for cultural connection and the transformative power of the arts.

Tony Robbins

• Motivational speaker and author of Awaken the Giant Within.
• Focuses on personal growth, peak performance, and living life to the fullest.

Robin Sharma

• Author of The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari, promoting intentional and meaningful living.
• Encourages mastering daily habits for long-term success and fulfillment.

Saito Hitori

• Japanese entrepreneur and philosopher known for his positive mindset teachings.
• Promotes the idea of creating your own luck and living with gratitude.

John Gray

• Author of Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus, an expert on relationships.
• Provides practical advice for improving romantic connections and communication.

Helen Fisher

• Anthropologist and researcher of love and relationships, author of Why We Love.
• Studies the science behind attraction and bonding in human behavior.

Nicholas Sparks

• Bestselling author of romantic novels like The Notebook and A Walk to Remember.
• Explores themes of deep love, resilience, and connection in his works.

Dale Carnegie

• Author of How to Win Friends and Influence People, a classic on building relationships.
• Known for practical advice on trust, influence, and personal development.

Simon Sinek

• Leadership expert and author of Start With Why, focusing on trust and purpose.
• Inspires people to build meaningful connections and lead with authenticity.

Aristotle

• Ancient Greek philosopher who wrote about virtue, ethics, and friendship.
• Advocated for relationships based on mutual growth and shared values.

Dr. Shefali Tsabary

• Psychologist and author of The Conscious Parent, focusing on family relationships.
• Encourages healing through understanding and compassion in parent-child dynamics.

Wayne Dyer

• Spiritual teacher and author of The Power of Intention.
• Advocates for love, forgiveness, and living a purposeful life.

Leo Buscaglia

• Author of Living, Loving, and Learning, focusing on human connection and kindness.
• Emphasizes love and emotional growth as central to a fulfilling life.

Alex Haley

• Author of Roots, a groundbreaking work on family heritage and cultural identity.
• Explores the importance of understanding one’s ancestry and history.

Joseph Campbell

• Mythologist and author of The Hero with a Thousand Faces.
• Known for the concept of the hero’s journey and the universal themes of myth.

Malcolm Gladwell

• Author of Outliers and The Tipping Point, exploring success and human behavior.
• Known for analyzing the intersection of talent, history, and opportunity.

Angela Duckworth

• Psychologist and author of Grit, focusing on perseverance and passion.
• Studies how effort and mindset contribute to success.

Howard Gardner

• Psychologist and creator of the theory of multiple intelligences.
• Advocates for recognizing and nurturing diverse strengths and talents.

Daniel Pink

• Author of Drive, which explores motivation and the science of peak performance.
• Focuses on the importance of intrinsic rewards in personal and professional success.

Cal Newport

• Author of Deep Work, emphasizing focus and productivity in a distracted world.
• Advocates for developing expertise through deliberate practice.

Anthony Bourdain

• Chef, author, and TV personality known for exploring cultures through food.
• Believed in the power of travel to foster connection and understanding.

Rick Steves

• Travel expert and author of numerous guides promoting cultural immersion.
• Encourages meaningful, budget-friendly travel to broaden perspectives.

Yuval Noah Harari

• Historian and author of Sapiens and Homo Deus, exploring humanity and its future.
• Highlights how cultural exchange fosters empathy and self-awareness.

Richard Wiseman

• Psychologist and author of The Luck Factor, studying the traits of lucky people.
• Focuses on how mindset and behavior influence luck.

Napoleon Hill

• Author of Think and Grow Rich, a classic on success principles and wealth creation.
• Advocates for visualization, persistence, and proactive action to shape luck.